rockpile Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Check out Best Man and his Task List Traditionally the best man is an honor but also a lot of work. Personally, if my son (who is probably as old or older than you!) asked me to be his best man I would be extremely honored! He is one of my few best friends. But, I would politely decline so I could enjoy the wedding and bachelor party, not plan or work at them. Have you talked to your Dad yet to see what HIS thoughts are? Haha, no. Part of the problem is, I don't know who to choose. I don't want to insult anybody. Second, my dad and I are close. I thought it would be a touching way to honor him. Paul made me think. We don't have forever on this earth. 703628[/snapback]
rockpile Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 I only "married off" one daughter so far. I walked her down the aisle and 'gave her away' to a very fine man. As father of the bride or groom you traditionally have a place in the wedding party, reception line, a special dance with the wife and the new bride, etc. It is rarely only on the "father of the bride's dime" anymore too. My wife and I paid for the reception (including an open bar) and wedding dress. We would have helped more, but at the time we were pissed at the new in-laws for trying to control everything, so we let them - and we let them pay for it too! My son-in-law is a great husband, father and second son. How he came from such POS parents astounds me. (I bet they feel the same way about me!) I don't recall Father of the Groom being a very big role. My Dad's role consisted of wearing a tux. Not too hard to eat, drink, and be merry on the poor Father of the Bride's dime. Other than monetary involvement, I'd be interested to hear what some other fathers have done to play a part in their son's wedding. Anyone? 703727[/snapback]
ieatcrayonz Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often? 703618[/snapback] Many times the best man sleeps with the bride to be prior to the wedding. There are some pros and cons here. PRO: Your father is older than you so he may tire easily leaving you some opportunity. CON: Any resulting pregnancy may lead you to believe you are the real father due to DNA similarities. PRO: You may be able to trust your father to keep his hands off out of loyalty to you. CON: Another best man may live far away and only have a few opportunities to sleep with your fiance. After the wedding they would be back home and too far away for anything but phone/webcam sex. Your father would always have a chance at holidays/etc. There are many more pros and cons but these are the big ones with long term implications. think about them.
Simon Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Go for it. That's exactly what I did when I got married many moons ago. If some traditionalist doesn't approve, too damned bad. It's your wedding.
OGTEleven Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often? 703618[/snapback] It's definitely not tacky. I agree with some others here that think your father may want to enjoy his role as father of the groom. I'd ask him but also let him know that you won't be offended if he declines because he wants to sit back and enjoy. Good Luck.
taterhill Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 let your old man enjoy the wedding...ask Scott Stevens..he does not have much going on now...
kegtapr Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Here in NC it is not uncommon for the father to be best man..... 703703[/snapback] Ok, I can't believe nobody has jumped on that.
taterhill Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Ok, I can't believe nobody has jumped on that. 703794[/snapback] to save time..often Weddings and family reunions are on the same day
X. Benedict Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Many times the best man sleeps with the bride to be prior to the wedding. There are some pros and cons here. PRO: Your father is older than you so he may tire easily leaving you some opportunity. CON: Any resulting pregnancy may lead you to believe you are the real father due to DNA similarities. PRO: You may be able to trust your father to keep his hands off out of loyalty to you. CON: Another best man may live far away and only have a few opportunities to sleep with your fiance. After the wedding they would be back home and too far away for anything but phone/webcam sex. Your father would always have a chance at holidays/etc. There are many more pros and cons but these are the big ones with long term implications. think about them. 703765[/snapback] That settles it. I am not going to be best man if my Dad remarries.
Ramius Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Here in NC it is not uncommon for the father to be best man, so go for it if you want. I'm sure your dad would be honored, bit don't count on any hot strippers for the stag party then! 703703[/snapback] Ok, I can't believe nobody has jumped on that. 703794[/snapback] i was just trying to figure out the logistics of how the same person can be best man and walk his daugter up the aisle at the same wedding.
Beerball Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Here in NC it is not uncommon for the father to be best man, so go for it if you want. I'm sure your dad would be honored, bit don't count on any hot strippers for the stag party then! i was just trying to figure out the logistics of how the same person can be best man and walk his daugter up the aisle at the same wedding. 703852[/snapback] You forgot the logistical problems that arise when he's also the groom.
ieatcrayonz Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 You forgot the logistical problems that arise when he's also the groom. 703857[/snapback] And you forgot the logistics of Ed's dad. He also has something that will be arising.
IBTG81 Posted June 6, 2006 Author Posted June 6, 2006 And you forgot the logistics of Ed's dad. He also has something that will be arising. 703895[/snapback] You're stooping down to VABills' level (which is all of 3 feet) when it comes to jokes.
Crap Throwing Monkey Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 You're stooping down to VABills' level (which is all of 3 feet) when it comes to jokes. 703975[/snapback] Probably because VA is too busy filming the next Expedia commercial to make them himself... P.S. Gay. Car.
IBTG81 Posted June 6, 2006 Author Posted June 6, 2006 Probably because VA is too busy filming the next Expedia commercial to make them himself... P.S. Gay. Car. 703996[/snapback] Fit>Prius
BUFFALOTONE Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often? 703618[/snapback] I am actually going to 2 weddings in July and both guys have there dads as best man. So i believe it its a nice gesture. On the other hand why the hell do you want to get married?Run man run like the wind.
stuckincincy Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Go for it. That's exactly what I did when I got married many moons ago. If some traditionalist doesn't approve, too damned bad. It's your wedding. 703768[/snapback] It's your wedding, but only to a degree, Simon. I've certainly no objection to having Dad as Best Man. But a wedding is not "yours". Guests are invited from all walks of life. It is poor indeed, when the couple inflicts their will upon others...the people who wiped their as*ses when they were young, saw to their education, saw to their nutrition, and so forth. Just because you invite someone doesn't mean same were wating for decades for the wonderful opportunity to kiss the nuptials' butts. I recall a former poster here adamanently avering that it was HIS da*n wedding, and that he would have HIS loud, FY music. He got a round of criticism - hope he learned something. The wedding couple are first and formost, hosts of a celebration, and must be thankful that others cared to show, and should set things up with that in mind and act accordingly. Those who insist otherwise make a lasting impression...
Crap Throwing Monkey Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Fit>Prius 703998[/snapback] Yeah. Shut up, Brokeback Honda boy...
kegtapr Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Fit>Prius 703998[/snapback] You two can settle this on the Keebler racing circuit.
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