IBTG81 Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often?
Guffalo Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often? 703618[/snapback] It's your choice, is he the best man? If he is, in your eyes, then so be it.... (Damn, I really wanted to bust chops and comment on how you pissed off every other guy you know)
IBTG81 Posted June 6, 2006 Author Posted June 6, 2006 It's your choice, is he the best man? If he is, in your eyes, then so be it....(Damn, I really wanted to bust chops and comment on how you pissed off every other guy you know) 703619[/snapback] Haha, no. Part of the problem is, I don't know who to choose. I don't want to insult anybody. Second, my dad and I are close. I thought it would be a touching way to honor him. Paul made me think. We don't have forever on this earth.
Crap Throwing Monkey Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often? 703618[/snapback] I'm surprised he'd agree with it, given the gayness of his son's new car... (It's non-traditional, for sure...but I don't think it's strictly verboten. Traditionally, the parents have seats of honor in the front of the ceremony, which having dad as a best man kind of screws with - but it's just tradition, not an inviolable rule. If that's what you want, do it...)
JÂy RÛßeÒ Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Just think of the Bachelor Party he'll throw for ya... Never Mind.
IBTG81 Posted June 6, 2006 Author Posted June 6, 2006 Just think of the Bachelor Party he'll throw for ya... Never Mind. 703634[/snapback] I remember a Drew Carey episode, where his father wanted to watch porn with him or something... ::shudder::
drnykterstein Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Yeah go for it if you want. Its you're wedding. You have no one to please except your self. I've seen both fathers and mothers be bestmen/maid 'o honors.
apuszczalowski Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Yeah go for it if you want. Its you're wedding. You have no one to please except your self. 703658[/snapback] No its not, its the future Mrs's wedding, he's just part of the ceramony, lol Unless its one of those "other" weddings, then it would be who ever gets to wear the dresses wedding (just joking with you) Honestly, I think its nice you would think of your father first for that role, and I think it is mostly tradition that say he should not be best man. Make the offer if thats what you want, the worst that can happen is he tells you hes touched but feels its not his place to be best man, or the worst thing is you have your dad to watch porn and hang out with at a strip club With the way modern weddings are going, nothing is tradition anymore so making a change like this isn't really going to be anything huge
Chef Jim Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often? 703618[/snapback] So who's giving away the bride, his mother?
IBTG81 Posted June 6, 2006 Author Posted June 6, 2006 So who's giving away the bride, his mother? 703677[/snapback]
rastabillz Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Here in NC it is not uncommon for the father to be best man, so go for it if you want. I'm sure your dad would be honored, bit don't count on any hot strippers for the stag party then!
Beerball Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Would your father be honored? Would you be honored? If yes, do it.
KD in CA Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often? 703618[/snapback] Of course not. If he's the person you are closest with, it's entirely appropriate. I'm sure he'd be honored.
X. Benedict Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often? 703618[/snapback] Not tacky, and it does happen all the time. This is a hetero wedding, right?
plenzmd1 Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often? 703618[/snapback] Happening quite frequently now. Read an article that postulated that as a country we are getting older when we are first married, and as we tend to become closer to our parents in our mid thirties than our early twentys,we realize what our parents have meant to us, and so more men are choosing to have their ftahers as their bast man. I think its awesome BTW
Stussy109 Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Well its a bit out of the norm, because normally the father plays a big role in the wedding already as "Father of the Groom." It'd be difficult for him to play both roles as best man etc. Also do you wnat your father planning the bachelor party etc which is a role usually put on by the best man. The norm is a brother or best friend.
KD in CA Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Well its a bit out of the norm, because normally the father plays a big role in the wedding already as "Father of the Groom." It'd be difficult for him to play both roles as best man etc. Also do you wnat your father planning the bachelor party etc which is a role usually put on by the best man. The norm is a brother or best friend. 703722[/snapback] What role does Father of the groom play? And why would his father have to plan the bachelor party?? Talk about a silly tradition that doesn't mean anything. His friends can arrange the night at Chippendales just fine.
MattyT Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Well its a bit out of the norm, because normally the father plays a big role in the wedding already as "Father of the Groom." It'd be difficult for him to play both roles as best man etc. Also do you wnat your father planning the bachelor party etc which is a role usually put on by the best man. The norm is a brother or best friend. 703722[/snapback] I don't recall Father of the Groom being a very big role. My Dad's role consisted of wearing a tux. Not too hard to eat, drink, and be merry on the poor Father of the Bride's dime. Other than monetary involvement, I'd be interested to hear what some other fathers have done to play a part in their son's wedding. Anyone?
ieatcrayonz Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Is it tacky to have a father as a best man? Does it happen often? 703618[/snapback] Where do I start? I'll need some time on this one.
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