If someone gives you a holiday gift you don't like

[Goin Breakdown]

My father in law just sent us a dried fruit and nut platter. His own daughter, my wife, is allergic to peanuts and tree nuts while my 2 daughters are allergic to tree nuts. He should know better, but he doesn't because he doesn't care to. My thought is to throw it away and tell him we did. 

[Sweats]

So, this just happened at Christmas.........my brother-in-law's mother just re-gifted my wife and i a hot plate.

 

A friggin hotplate, for christs sakes.......and the reason i knew it was re=gifted is cause it was obvious that it was previously used.

 

1) it sounds like something ole Sweats would have done

2) what the hell am i going to do with a hotplate?

[Augie]

On 12/18/2024 at 3:58 PM, Max Fischer said:

I don't like receiving gifts. I don't need anything and don't want anyone spending money on me.  I'd rather go out to dinner with them.

 

The nightmare is receiving a gift you can't hide. Picture frames (or worse, with a bad picture), art, anything subjective, books (I have a library of yet-to-be-read books, and now they'll ask how I liked the gift I would never have bought). My wife and I have a rule where we provide a short list of very specific items. Usually something I wouldn't normally buy for myself.  

 

I probably have anxiety over gift giving on the assumption others feel the same way. 

 

I don’t shop for gifts for my wife anymore. In the early days I’d go out and guess what she might like. The truth is, I have no idea which clothes or earrings she might want. If she wants something, she has it delivered to our door. More than half I end up taking back to the UPS Store. It works for us. 

 

This year we went clothes shopping for me together. She’s helpful to shop with, but I’m there to veto anything I don’t like. I told her I wanted to shop with her FOR HER. She said all she wanted was a TV for the bedroom, so this afternoon we’ll go pick up the 55” Frame TV (those are very cool, btw) waiting for us at Best Buy.  It’s very comfortable to be able to do it this way, and people get what they actually want. 

15 minutes ago, Sweats said:

So, this just happened at Christmas.........my brother-in-law's mother just re-gifted my wife and i a hot plate.

 

A friggin hotplate, for christs sakes.......and the reason i knew it was re=gifted is cause it was obvious that it was previously used.

 

1) it sounds like something ole Sweats would have done

2) what the hell am i going to do with a hotplate?

 

I was hoping someone would get you a new mattress. 😊

[muppy]

it depends on what it is. Example is a gift that a person buys you that you actually think was thoughtful and with good intentions. My son bought me a fancy portrait tent with fancy backdrops for reselling . I just can't use it and told him so sweet but can we return it?

 

he said sure  it went back to Amazon . He better not be cheap and not give me the credit for the gift 

 

lol Yes he will. he is a loving son.

 

m

[Augie]

6 minutes ago, muppy said:

it depends on what it is. Example is a gift that a person buys you that you actually think was thoughtful and with good intentions. My son bought me a fancy portrait tent with fancy backdrops for reselling . I just can't use it and told him so sweet but can we return it?

 

he said sure  it went back to Amazon . He better not be cheap and not give me the credit for the gift 

 

lol Yes he will. he is a loving son.

 

m

 

Our son is a quiet, thoughtful young man. He doesn’t say a lot, but he hears everything and stores it away. As a result, he’s an unusually good gift giver. He knows you learn more with your mouth closed, I guess. 

[Johnny Hammersticks]

This is why we have a re-gift box in the basement.  One of the kids hands us a birthday party invitation Friday afternoon for a party on Saturday…what’s in the box?! 📦 

[Fleezoid]

On 12/18/2024 at 4:05 PM, Goin Breakdown said:

My father in law just sent us a dried fruit and nut platter. His own daughter, my wife, is allergic to peanuts and tree nuts while my 2 daughters are allergic to tree nuts. He should know better, but he doesn't because he doesn't care to. My thought is to throw it away and tell him we did. 

 

Check to see if your father in law purchased any new life insurance policies. He may try a different tactic. J/k. I'm sure it was just an oversight. 

 

[Goin Breakdown]

2 hours ago, Fleezoid said:

 

Check to see if your father in law purchased any new life insurance policies. He may try a different tactic. J/k. I'm sure it was just an oversight. 

 

Probably yeah. He's getting up there. 

[Sweats]

My wife's family always plays "secret Santa" every year and every year, i end up with the worst present........in fact, people go out of their way to get ****** gifts for it so i end up with it.

 

It's like they are thinking, "what is the worst possible present i can get that ole Sweats will end up with?!?"

 

1) this year i got a hotplate

2) last year was a pack of rechargeable batteries (i don't even own the charger for them)

3) the year before that was a $10 frying pan (melted the first time i used it)

4) year before that was DIY brownie kit (that was missing the brownies, for God sakes)

5) blah, blah, blah

 

Bah Humbug

 

[ExiledInIllinois]

19 minutes ago, Sweats said:

My wife's family always plays "secret Santa" every year and every year, i end up with the worst present........in fact, people go out of their way to get ****** gifts for it so i end up with it.

 

It's like they are thinking, "what is the worst possible present i can get that ole Sweats will end up with?!?"

 

1) this year i got a hotplate

2) last year was a pack of rechargeable batteries (i don't even own the charger for them)

3) the year before that was a $10 frying pan (melted the first time i used it)

4) year before that was DIY brownie kit (that was missing the brownies, for God sakes)

5) blah, blah, blah

 

Bah Humbug

 

I see the problem and a connection here.  You should have waited for the hotplate before using the frying pan that you got 2 years earlier. 

 

You sure the batteries don't go in the hotplate?

 

The brownie mix is coming next year.

 

😆 

[SinceThe70s]

On 1/2/2025 at 10:52 AM, Augie said:

 

I don’t shop for gifts for my wife anymore. In the early days I’d go out and guess what she might like. The truth is, I have no idea which clothes or earrings she might want. If she wants something, she has it delivered to our door. More than half I end up taking back to the UPS Store. It works for us. 

 

This year we went clothes shopping for me together. She’s helpful to shop with, but I’m there to veto anything I don’t like. I told her I wanted to shop with her FOR HER. She said all she wanted was a TV for the bedroom, so this afternoon we’ll go pick up the 55” Frame TV (those are very cool, btw) waiting for us at Best Buy.  It’s very comfortable to be able to do it this way, and people get what they actually want. 

 

 

 

I stopped shopping for my wife years ago. Spent a lot of time one year trying to find matching earrings for a necklace she liked and was pretty pleased with what I bought. And then she asked me to return them a few days after Christmas. I wasn't offended, just decided I wasn't gonna waste my time again. She knows what she likes and wants and now we're both happier.

 

The only thing I buy her every year is a heart-shaped Christmas ornament. I've been doing that since our first Christmas together. The funniest was the year I had them customize the ornament with our names and when I got it in the mail noticed they had written Mark instead of Matt. At the time Mark was our next door neighbor so we had a few laughs.

[TBBills Fan]

Burn it!

3 hours ago, SinceThe70s said:

 

I stopped shopping for my wife years ago. Spent a lot of time one year trying to find matching earrings for a necklace she liked and was pretty pleased with what I bought. And then she asked me to return them a few days after Christmas. I wasn't offended, just decided I wasn't gonna waste my time again. She knows what she likes and wants and now we're both happier.

 

The only thing I buy her every year is a heart-shaped Christmas ornament. I've been doing that since our first Christmas together. The funniest was the year I had them customize the ornament with our names and when I got it in the mail noticed they had written Mark instead of Matt. At the time Mark was our next door neighbor so we had a few laughs.

Swingers?

[SinceThe70s]

28 minutes ago, TBBills Fan said:

Burn it!

Swingers?

 

It would be news to me.