Another Fan Posted September 1, 2021 Share Posted September 1, 2021 I know a few and have to work with a few managers that fit that profile. Sometimes I find just saying nothing/avoiding them at all means is best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gugny Posted September 1, 2021 Share Posted September 1, 2021 Personal life - remove them from your circle. Work life - kill 'em with kindness and don't let them bring you down. 2 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
\GoBillsInDallas/ Posted September 1, 2021 Share Posted September 1, 2021 38 minutes ago, Another Fan said: How do you deal with a Debbie Downer? 1 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExiledInIllinois Posted September 1, 2021 Share Posted September 1, 2021 41 minutes ago, Gugny said: Personal life - remove them from your circle. I've been listening to your advice for years. Ever see how I circle my wagons! 😏 Thanks you're the best! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ndirish1978 Posted September 1, 2021 Share Posted September 1, 2021 1 hour ago, Another Fan said: I know a few and have to work with a few managers that fit that profile. Sometimes I find just saying nothing/avoiding them at all means is best. For some, this is their personality. Most downers are unhappy with their own lives and take out their misery on other people. Some try to engage others in complaining about others in the office or work situations - in my experience it is best not to engage, just smile say something nice and excuse yourself. Doom and gloom people -try and set the tone for all your conversations with them. Be polite and positive and let them know through your actions that you are someone they can count on to get your work done but it's not worth the time to try and befriend them, they will drain you of your energy. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leh-nerd skin-erd Posted September 1, 2021 Share Posted September 1, 2021 4 hours ago, Another Fan said: I know a few and have to work with a few managers that fit that profile. Sometimes I find just saying nothing/avoiding them at all means is best. It's important to realize that men and women respond to different environmental stimuli, especially in a quasi-professional setting. You want to validate one's individuality, of course, but you must offer intellectual honesty because a rising tide lifts all boats. If male, tell him you've been known to wax a chump like a candle. If female, you have a choice here, and your life likely depends on you making the right call. You go with either telling her she's a firework, or that you got 99 problems and a ***** ain't one. This is how we build mutual, sustaining and sustainable respect in this modern world. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frostbitmic Posted September 1, 2021 Share Posted September 1, 2021 Nod ... Smile ... Walk Away 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jauronimo Posted September 2, 2021 Share Posted September 2, 2021 10 hours ago, Another Fan said: I know a few and have to work with a few managers that fit that profile. Sometimes I find just saying nothing/avoiding them at all means is best. I used to work with the a serial complainer. I used to cheer him up by saying: "Cheer up, Chris. Its not that bad. Just remember that one day you will be dead. And probably a lot sooner than you think!" 1 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Jack Posted September 2, 2021 Share Posted September 2, 2021 For every downer statement they make, you make a cheery one. They complain about the rain, you mention how sunny it was on your vacation in Hawaii. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bad Things Posted September 2, 2021 Share Posted September 2, 2021 I sometimes call 'em out by saying something like, "Well, aren't you a little ray of sunshine!", with a big smile on my face, and see what happens. I consider myself a very happy person and have no time for whiners. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jauronimo Posted September 2, 2021 Share Posted September 2, 2021 Calmly and courteously explain to them that "across the street" is just a cry for help and if they really mean business they'll go "down the tracks" but you don't think they have the guts! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Jack Posted September 2, 2021 Share Posted September 2, 2021 We can't be discussing Debbie Downer without posting this classic... 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marv's Neighbor Posted September 2, 2021 Share Posted September 2, 2021 8 hours ago, Just Jack said: We can't be discussing Debbie Downer without posting this classic... A Cheetriots fan! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4merper4mer Posted September 2, 2021 Share Posted September 2, 2021 13 hours ago, Jauronimo said: I used to work with the a serial complainer. I used to cheer him up by saying: "Cheer up, Chris. Its not that bad. Just remember that one day you will be dead. And probably a lot sooner than you think!" At that point, Jim punched Jauronimo for calling him Chris. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patrick Duffy Posted September 2, 2021 Share Posted September 2, 2021 I feel like we have all likely been down or a "debbie downer" about something at some point in our lives. Although there are lots of ppl that just seem to be that way too often and about small things that just shouldn't bother, which is then imo just attention seeking. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eball Posted September 2, 2021 Share Posted September 2, 2021 It's a victim mentality. Don't feed it, don't empathize with it, and (as others have noted) deflect attention to something positive if you can't get away from that person. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExiledInIllinois Posted September 2, 2021 Share Posted September 2, 2021 25 minutes ago, eball said: It's a victim mentality. Don't feed it, don't empathize with it, and (as others have noted) deflect attention to something positive if you can't get away from that person. Taking it to the macro level: It has always existed... it's on steroids now. Lots of people want to be the victim, it's socially made acceptable and most importantly to these people: It pays! Society does exactly what you say we shouldn't! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny Hammersticks Posted September 2, 2021 Share Posted September 2, 2021 I work with one. He’s always miserable and never stops complaining. After I got to know him well enough, I felt comfortable pointing his Debbie Downer tendencies in a funny way. He’s still a constant buzz kill, but at least now I can call him out and we laugh about it and lighten the mood. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExiledInIllinois Posted September 2, 2021 Share Posted September 2, 2021 3 minutes ago, Johnny Hammersticks said: I work with one. He’s always miserable and never stops complaining. After I got to know him well enough, I felt comfortable pointing his Debbie Downer tendencies in a funny way. He’s still a constant buzz kill, but at least now I can call him out and we laugh about it and lighten the mood. Nothing wrong with a fun-lovin' killjoy! 😉😜 They can be positive. I mean the exact opposite are those Pollyannas. How annoying! 😏 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greg S Posted September 2, 2021 Share Posted September 2, 2021 Since Jets fans are debbie downers about the state of their football team I just laugh at them especially when leaving MetLife. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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