What popular saying is actually bull####?

[WotAGuy]

3 minutes ago, SDS said:

That’s over the line.

Apparently you’ve missed all the posts about women having sex with young boys. Oh - there’s one now!

[SDS]

6 minutes ago, WotAGuy said:

Apparently you’ve missed all the posts about women having sex with young boys. Oh - there’s one now!

There’s a difference between adult stories in the news, and being over the top crude.

[BADOLBILZ]

On 12/2/2020 at 6:13 PM, Buffalo716 said:

Winners never cheat and cheaters never win

 

 

Pretty sure a very effective cheater came up with that.

[BADOLBILZ]

12 hours ago, LeviF91 said:

"Follow your dreams."  Your dreams are stupid.

[Special K]

 

“Fake it ‘til you make it!”

 

 

 

[SDS]

4 minutes ago, Special K said:

 

“Fake it ‘til you make it!”

 

 

 

Why do you think this is false?

[Special K]

52 minutes ago, SDS said:

Why do you think this is false?

 

"Fake it till you make it" (or "Fake it until you make it") is an English aphorism which suggests that by imitating confidence, competence, and an optimistic mindset, a person can realize those qualities in their real life.

 

To me, people who use this concept are saying "I don't have to learn anything or apply myself or work hard, I'll just act like I know what I'm doing to fool everyone into thinking I'm competent."

 

I would respect someone more if they said to me at my job "I don't know everything, but I'm willing to learn and work hard to get there.",  then someone who tells me "I know what I'm doing, I've got this.", then proceeds to show me that they do not "got this".

 

I'm glad I am not someone who is in charge of hiring people....I don't know how they weed their way through all the BS in job interviews to hire the people who actually have competence, instead of those who "fake it 'til they make it!"

Edited December 4, 2020 by Special K

[SDS]

9 minutes ago, Special K said:

 

"Fake it till you make it" (or "Fake it until you make it") is an English aphorism which suggests that by imitating confidence, competence, and an optimistic mindset, a person can realize those qualities in their real life.

 

To me, people who use this concept are saying "I don't have to learn anything or apply myself or work hard, I'll just act like I know what I'm doing to fool everyone into thinking I'm competent."

 

I would respect someone more if they said to me at my job "I don't know everything, but I'm willing to learn and work hard to get there.",  then someone who tells me "I know what I'm doing, I've got this.", then proceeds to show me that they do not "got this".

 

I'm glad I am not someone who is in charge of hiring people....I don't know how they weed their way through all the BS in job interviews to hire the people who actually have competence, instead of those who "fake it 'til the make it!"

I think you’re missing the make it part of the phrase. It isn’t fake it and do nothing. It’s fake it and then work hard to grow into the position.

[Augie]

2 minutes ago, SDS said:

I think you’re missing the make it part of the phrase. It isn’t fake it and do nothing. It’s fake it and then work hard to grow into the position.

 

It’s a common phrase in the addiction world, and you are correct. LOOK good until you ARE good.

 

There’s a LOT of work and growth in between. 

[Special K]

20 minutes ago, SDS said:

I think you’re missing the make it part of the phrase. It isn’t fake it and do nothing. It’s fake it and then work hard to grow into the position.

 

I can see the positive uses of the phrase, but unfortunately, many people, especially young people, don't see the "hard work" part, they just see it as a shortcut to getting what they want.

 

Its just my opinion, I didn't mean to upset anyone, I just think the wording of the phrase can lead to misuse.

Edited December 4, 2020 by Special K

[ExiledInIllinois]

53 minutes ago, Special K said:

 

I can see the positive uses of the phrase, but unfortunately, many people, especially young people, don't see the "hard work" part, they just see it as a shortcut to getting what they want.

 

Its just my opinion, I didn't mean to upset anyone, I just think the wording of the phrase can lead to misuse.

Exactly.   People TODAY tend to use it not to get a foot in the door, then work hard, but to get to easy street (make it), then rest on their ill gotten laurels.

[Doc Brown]

"Revenge is a dish best served cold."  I can't even find it on a menu.

 

"Good things come to those who wait."  I'm still waiting OBD.  

 

"All you need is love."  And a bullet proof vest.

 

 

 

 

 

 

[LeviF]

5 hours ago, Doc Brown said:

 

 

"All you need is love."  And a bullet proof vest.

 

 

 

 

lol I've always preferred Tina Turner's take - "what's love got to do with it?"

[Figster]

"Its hard to win in this league."

 

"A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush"

 

It wasn't hard for McD,

 

and a bird in the hand is not worth two in the bush If you go out and get it.

 

 

 

 

Edited December 4, 2020 by Figster

[DrDawkinstein]

11 hours ago, Special K said:

 

I can see the positive uses of the phrase, but unfortunately, many people, especially young people, don't see the "hard work" part, they just see it as a shortcut to getting what they want.

 

Its just my opinion, I didn't mean to upset anyone, I just think the wording of the phrase can lead to misuse.

 

10 hours ago, ExiledInIllinois said:

Exactly.   People TODAY tend to use it not to get a foot in the door, then work hard, but to get to easy street (make it), then rest on their ill gotten laurels.

 

Kids these days... Right fellas? 🙄 😜

 

 

 

[ExiledInIllinois]

6 minutes ago, DrDawkinstein said:

 

 

Kids these days... Right fellas? 🙄 😜

 

 

 

Vicious cycle!  It will become you too! 😉 

[DrDawkinstein]

Just now, ExiledInIllinois said:

Vicious cycle!  It will become you too! 😉 

 

You call that music!?

[Irv]

"It's water under the dam"

[BADOLBILZ]

12 hours ago, SDS said:

I think you’re missing the make it part of the phrase. It isn’t fake it and do nothing. It’s fake it and then work hard to grow into the position.

 

 

Yeah I have a friend who was very intelligent and hard working but hated school and just wasn't going to go to college.   He was stuck in jobs he hated and constantly complaining that he was better than the "educated" people he was beneath.   So I told him to just tell interviewers that he had a degree.   Problem solved.  He has been an asset everywhere he has been and he even forgave me for prank calling him on a voice changer saying someone had ran up $700 on his Sears credit card.  

 

Of course then you have the Jeffery Epsteins who faked school credentials so they ultimately could eventually get creepy massages and entertain others who faked it til they made it.

[Special K]

1 hour ago, DrDawkinstein said:

 

 

Kids these days... Right fellas? 🙄 😜

 

 

 

 

Ouch.... that stings!!

 

OK, I’ll try another one:

 

”I am who I am, it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.”

 

This is another phrase that while true at its heart, is unfortunately misused by many people to justify their bad behaviors or lousy personalities.

 

Instead of saying “man I was a real jerk in that situation, I need to be better.”, they think “I am who I am, if they don’t like it, that’s their problem.”