Saxum Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 She has been in Elderwood Assisted Living in Hamburg for a while but her health has gotten worse and worse. She has had a "Do not resuscitate order" for a while with diabetes, heart, lung and other issues. She was hospital for breathing issues and they discovered it was due to anemia and has been giving blood but they also discovered something, probably cancer, on liver. My mother said she would be willing to try radiation therapy but not chemo but later changed her mind and said she just wanted to go home and she meant Heaven. She was given communion and I assume last rights and given morphine until she was able to transferred to a hospice. He never made it; she was given morphine at midnight and when nurse checked at 2 am her eyes were open but she had died. Dying in hospital means it does not require autopsy. I am unable to handle the drive alone, certainly not at short notice without staying in hotel on way, so after my wife gets off work Friday we will drive up, get a few hours sleep and go to funeral. Stay day and drive back on Sunday. I wish I was able to talk to my mom but she could not hear cell phone, does not text and I have not been able to be in touch with her this year despite multiple calls. I know she has been uncomfortable constantly in hospital last few years so I hope now she is at peace. 27
zevo Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 Sry for your loss...I hope you are able to find comfort knowing she is in a better place...take care.
Bill from NYC Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 I ask God to rest her soul and to provide solace during these times of sorrow. 1
OldTimeAFLGuy Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 ...sorry for your loss...prayers for you and the family...………..
Guffalo Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 So Sorry to hear Limeaid, but you can know she is at peace, your memories will stay forever.
Marv's Neighbor Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 Very sorry for your loss. When my Mom passed, I was in Houston and she was in Buffalo. Despite my best efforts, i couldn't make it back to be with her when she died. That's a hurt that has been with me for a long time. I'm sure we both know that I did my best, but it was still very difficult.
Johnny Hammersticks Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 My condolences, friend. She is at peace now.
BringBackFergy Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 Very sorry Lime. God’s peace to you and your family. She is home.
Saxum Posted February 6, 2020 Author Posted February 6, 2020 16 minutes ago, Marv's Neighbor said: Very sorry for your loss. When my Mom passed, I was in Houston and she was in Buffalo. Despite my best efforts, i couldn't make it back to be with her when she died. That's a hurt that has been with me for a long time. I'm sure we both know that I did my best, but it was still very difficult. I am sure you did. My condolances. I would have liked to have talked to her using facetime (?) over phone and my brother said he would try to arrange it. She had trouble with hearing cell phone ring so I have not been able to talk to her this year. I was making plans to see her in hospice this weekend but she never made it there so I am going to Blasdell anyways just more urgently so I can be at funeral on time.
4merper4mer Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 Very sorry to hear. May God rest her soul and give peace to you and your family.
LB3 Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 Condolences. Prayers for you and your family in this tough times.
The Avenger Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 Nothing I could say could probably ease your pain but I send my condolences. Take comfort in hearing that she had been given care to make her comfortable - I believe at the end it is not about all the extraordinary measure you take to gain only small amounts of time, but that you are comfortable and at peace and it sounds like that's what your mother had.
oldmanfan Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 Sympathies and prayers to you and your family.
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