Gugny Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 2 minutes ago, plenzmd1 said: I prefer to stay home and not socialize!!!! Man, no one wants to claim they are an extrovert? @Augie is full of poop, he is the most extroverted person on this board. I am still the guy who sits at the bar without my cell phone out if I am by myself cause i want to start a conversation with the person next to me. Afetr the Sabres-Hurricanes game, had no issue going into the nearby bar and meeting new folks/Sabre fans..and I was by myself that night. Ended up meeting the sister of a dude i went to high school within the Falls! to absolutely no ones surprise! It's the initiating of conversations that I'm uncomfortable with. If someone engages me, I'll talk no problem. I'm just not one to get the ball rolling. And you ... you're a prick! 1
plenzmd1 Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 1 minute ago, Gugny said: It's the initiating of conversations that I'm uncomfortable with. If someone engages me, I'll talk no problem. I'm just not one to get the ball rolling. And you ... you're a prick! My coach always uses to say..you are a real prince, spelled p-r-i-c-k!!!! Its funny when you say it out loud and slow 1
bdutton Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 43 minutes ago, Mr Info said: There is a general consensus that introvert/extrovert are not black & white. Rather, there is an ambivert. For example, someone who behaves as an extrovert in social situations but an introvert otherwise. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.forbes.com/sites/travisbradberry/2016/04/26/9-signs-that-youre-an-ambivert/amp/ https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/cutting-edge-leadership/201711/are-you-extravert-introvert-or-ambivert%3famp I am definitely an ambivert.
row_33 Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 21 minutes ago, LeGOATski said: No. That's way too basic, my dude. You're describing most people. Most people prefer to "recharge their batteries" on their own. Introverts prefer to be by themselves or with only close friends pretty much always. Even when fully "charged." But, it's more of a mental tendency than a social tendency. Just inwardly focused instead of outwardly. Not talking is a product of that, because there's no need to talk. The introvert is simply working it out by themselves, in their mind. Not seeking other's opinion or needing any sound board. no they don't, most people have a relationship and DO THINGS with other people, they PUT UP WITH their in-laws for half their weekends you have some real bug up your kiester over being an introvert, let it go, relax and unclench... sorry, you want a "scientific" answer to all this..... good freakin luck, sport....
teef Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 i think as we get older, we all prefer more alone time, simply because it becomes harder to come by. i college and in my younger years, i'd go out just to make sure i didn't miss anything. if i had more than an hour alone, i'd get antsy. now quiet in my life is a commodity. my wife and kids are leaving on sunday for a week to florida. i can't begin to tell you how excited i am to have the house to myself.
row_33 Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 10 minutes ago, teef said: i think as we get older, we all prefer more alone time, simply because it becomes harder to come by. i college and in my younger years, i'd go out just to make sure i didn't miss anything. if i had more than an hour alone, i'd get antsy. now quiet in my life is a commodity. my wife and kids are leaving on sunday for a week to florida. i can't begin to tell you how excited i am to have the house to myself. most roommates and people in my life have been apoplectic that I could sit on the couch watching sports all afternoon to recharge there's various levels of sitting on the Intro/Extro scale if one feels they are sick or outside the boundaries of healthy existence, then read up on this stuff, try the Briggs-Meyer, find out the strengths and weaknesses of your worldview and try to work on both of them. don't listen to the extroverts wanting you to join them in their boredom, when they have no real useful thing to do with your precious time... 1
KD in CA Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 1 hour ago, Royale with Cheese said: Damn....how long was your divorce? Mine was literally 28 days and we were split. I recently actually started thinking about dating again so I think I'm somewhat close. I'll probably start "hunting" and being more social when I'm out in the next 2-3 months. I've never online dated so I'm not sure if I'm going to start. 5 1/2 months You’re crazy if you don’t go online. The world has changed. Online dating v not is like having direct deposit v waiting in line at the bank.
row_33 Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 10 minutes ago, KD in CA said: 5 1/2 months You’re crazy if you don’t go online. The world has changed. Online dating v not is like having direct deposit v waiting in line at the bank. each person is different and takes their own path extrovert have trouble grasping this quite often
Royale with Cheese Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 2 minutes ago, KD in CA said: 5 1/2 months You’re crazy if you don’t go online. The world has changed. Online dating v not is like having direct deposit v waiting in line at the bank. I've been told that it can be tough to get a date online because girls get their inbox filled up every day. You're like a needle in a haystack. Have you heard the same?
Marv's Neighbor Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 30 minutes ago, teef said: i think as we get older, we all prefer more alone time, simply because it becomes harder to come by. i college and in my younger years, i'd go out just to make sure i didn't miss anything. if i had more than an hour alone, i'd get antsy. now quiet in my life is a commodity. my wife and kids are leaving on sunday for a week to florida. i can't begin to tell you how excited i am to have the house to myself. Kind of like an older Kevin McCallister?
teef Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 4 minutes ago, Marv's Neighbor said: Kind of like an older Kevin McCallister?
dpberr Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 I'm an introvert and a "professional" extrovert, trained in public speaking, the country club chit-chat and the uncomfortable times sitting at a table with strangers. It's on a level of professional acting. I look like I belong but I'd love nothing more than to run for the exits and find a forest without a soul in it. Public speaking/events exhaust me. It's a 2:1 ratio. For every event I have to present or glad hand, I need twice the amount of alone time to recover. Besides being a podiatrist, the job in hell for me is a car salesman. Couldn't handle people all day, every day.
RochesterRob Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 1 hour ago, Royale with Cheese said: Damn....how long was your divorce? Mine was literally 28 days and we were split. I recently actually started thinking about dating again so I think I'm somewhat close. I'll probably start "hunting" and being more social when I'm out in the next 2-3 months. I've never online dated so I'm not sure if I'm going to start. I did the old fashioned dating service before my wife came along. Online dating can't be any worse. It's not like people were intensely screened for character years ago.
Augie Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 1 hour ago, plenzmd1 said: I prefer to stay home and not socialize!!!!? Man, no one wants to claim they are an extrovert? @Augie is full of poop, he is the most extroverted person on this board. I am still the guy who sits at the bar without my cell phone out if I am by myself cause i want to start a conversation with the person next to me. Afetr the Sabres-Hurricanes game, had no issue going into the nearby bar and meeting new folks/Sabre fans..and I was by myself that night. Ended up meeting the sister of a dude i went to high school with in the Falls! to absolutely no one's surprise!? I am indeed full of poop, but thanks to you I know there is an app telling me where to get rid of it! As for the rest of us, we are the people sitting at the bar who spot you immediately and do everything in our power to avoid eye contact. We know your type! ? 1
Another Fan Posted January 31, 2019 Author Posted January 31, 2019 1 hour ago, Gugny said: Me, neither. I went to a wedding last fall without a date. Only people I knew were the bride and her family ... so they were all in the wedding party. I was seated at the reception with a bunch of people I didn't know - all about 20 years younger than me. I left about 10 minutes after I ate. This sort of thing happened at a wedding I went to a couple months ago. Most people there I didn’t know and the few people I knew were getting a bit drunk/aggressive/overly obnoxious for my liking. I’d of left early but unfortunately I had to wait for a bus to bring us back to the hotel I was staying in. Wedding was 4 hours away so I didn’t know the area at all
Gugny Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 3 minutes ago, Another Fan said: This sort of thing happened at a wedding I went to a couple months ago. Most people there I didn’t know and the few people I knew were getting a bit drunk/aggressive/overly obnoxious for my liking. I’d of left early but unfortunately I had to wait for a bus to bring us back to the hotel I was staying in. Wedding was 4 hours away so I didn’t know the area at all Damn, that stinks. I was 15 minutes from home. I had a couple beers during cocktail hour. Another couple between dinner and watching the "important" dances (father/daughter, first dance, etc.). Then I disappeared.
Johnny Hammersticks Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 Extrovert here. The more people the better. Love parties and can carry on a conversation with just about anyone. Although, as mentioned earlier in this thread, as I have grown older (and there is less opportunity for it) I do enjoy time by myself or just with my family. 1
Just Jack Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 2 hours ago, Royale with Cheese said: Damn....how long was your divorce? Mine was literally 28 days and we were split. I recently actually started thinking about dating again so I think I'm somewhat close. I'll probably start "hunting" and being more social when I'm out in the next 2-3 months. I've never online dated so I'm not sure if I'm going to start. You should ask @Boyst62 for online dating advice, like what apps to try, what interests get the most attention, should you post dick pics, etc.
Royale with Cheese Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 5 minutes ago, Just Jack said: You should ask @Boyst62 for online dating advice, like what apps to try, what interests get the most attention, should you post dick pics, etc. Do you think SDS would be open to that here?
Just Jack Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 (edited) 4 minutes ago, Royale with Cheese said: Do you think SDS would be open to that here? Well, this is not a dating site, so probably not. But if you're interested, @Gugny is single if you're into that type. Edited January 31, 2019 by Just Jack
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