Ice bowl 67 Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 5 hours ago, Foxx said: you're probably just shy. Hey Foxx remember me? How ya been bro? 5 hours ago, Another Fan said: Anyone ever gone through this here/have elements of it. I’ve beaten it in the past but today was a little rough. Hope you feel better bud.
Tiberius Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 2 hours ago, RaoulDuke79 said: I've never had an official diagnosis, but as I grow older I'm getting more and more averse to large crowds or crowded places in general. That's funny, I feel comfortable in a large crowd, very comfortable. It's going to work parties I hate, the people I'm suppose to know, but just don't care to, lol. I really hate having to deal with a social clique. The people that are normal when you talk to one of them but when they are together they are complete POS
ExiledInIllinois Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 20 minutes ago, Tiberius said: That's funny, I feel comfortable in a large crowd, very comfortable. It's going to work parties I hate, the people I'm suppose to know, but just don't care to, lol. I really hate having to deal with a social clique. The people that are normal when you talk to one of them but when they are together they are complete POS Like PPP. The douchebags just seem to congeal. It's the natural order of things. LoL... 3
Royale with Cheese Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 Take deep breaths, slowly release. Should calm some nerves. 1
ExiledInIllinois Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 Find a happy place... A vocation rather than a occupation helps. That's why I do what I do... I go to work to decompress. Throwback to a simpler time. I am such a simple dick... But it grounds me. Should post this song in the 90s music thread... I think it is an underrated gr8 one... 1
LeGOATski Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 I used to get it bad. Involuntarily shaking. Mouth gets completely dry. Can't speak. Can't think. I had a mentor challenge me to talk to one new person every week. It helped. Eventually, do it every day possible. Obviously, you really have to commit yourself to doing that and accept the fact that it will be awkward. Super awkward. The key is also to take notes on all your new interactions. Learn from it. Be methodical about it. I would discuss my interactions with my mentor every other week. That way I got feedback and was held accountable. Interacting in social situations became a lot easier. I felt prepared, even if it was an unexpected thing. I have no idea if it'll work for you, but have someone help you and try it out. 1
Johnny Hammersticks Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 2 hours ago, Teddy KGB said: I ain’t scared to talk to anyone Ship me a few dollars and I’ll tell that boss of yours what time it is. The only pain I got time for is the pain I put on fools who don’t know what time it is! Terry Tate, Office Linebacker
The Jokeman Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 (edited) I take medication (Sertraline) for mine and it definitely helps. As I've always been the shy introverted type. Yet after taking the meds I find myself a little more open and happier sharing my thoughts and ideas with others. Talk to your doctor about it as sometimes it's a chemical thing and medication can help. Edited July 26, 2018 by The Jokeman 1
Tiberius Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 7 hours ago, LeGOATski said: I used to get it bad. Involuntarily shaking. Mouth gets completely dry. Can't speak. Can't think. I had a mentor challenge me to talk to one new person every week. It helped. Eventually, do it every day possible. Obviously, you really have to commit yourself to doing that and accept the fact that it will be awkward. Super awkward. The key is also to take notes on all your new interactions. Learn from it. Be methodical about it. I would discuss my interactions with my mentor every other week. That way I got feedback and was held accountable. Interacting in social situations became a lot easier. I felt prepared, even if it was an unexpected thing. I have no idea if it'll work for you, but have someone help you and try it out. So much about life is just having a plan and executing it
Canadian Bills Fan Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 My wife has it and is on medication for it. She describes it like feeling uneasy around crowds of people and will try to do what she can to avoid it
row_33 Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 i don't like crowds and try to avoid them at all costs, used to enjoy going to 100 sporting events and concerts a year if i'm really not into being there then it becomes burdensome
Jauronimo Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 14 hours ago, stuvian said: I have a tendency toward paranoia which is exacerbated by the dynamics of my workplace I have reverse paranoia. I'm pretty sure I am plotting to f@#$ everyone.
DC Tom Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 I used to have it. I honestly got over it by realizing that all efforts to justify myself have been a waste of my time, and I don't need to care what other people think. 3
Seasons1992 Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 16 hours ago, RaoulDuke79 said: I've never had an official diagnosis, but as I grow older I'm getting more and more averse to large crowds or crowded places in general. 1000%. I prefer sitting high up in public places like sporting events or concerts or wherever people congregate, so I can see what's in front of me and not be around morons or squished seating environs.
RaoulDuke79 Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 6 minutes ago, Seasons1992 said: 1000%. I prefer sitting high up in public places like sporting events or concerts or wherever people congregate, so I can see what's in front of me and not be around morons or squished seating environs. We went to an amusement park last weekend, and I didn't really find it enjoyable. It's just so crowded. You're constantly weaving in and out of people trying to avoid bumping into them, struggling to find a place to sit when you get a bite to eat. It's more burdensome than fun to me.
Johnny Hammersticks Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 1 minute ago, RaoulDuke79 said: We went to an amusement park last weekend, and I didn't really find it enjoyable. It's just so crowded. You're constantly weaving in and out of people trying to avoid bumping into them, struggling to find a place to sit when you get a bite to eat. It's more burdensome than fun to me. No disrespect intended, but isn’t this the normal human experience? Does anyone really enjoy weaving through large crowds of strangers? I don’t have social anxiety, but I also dislike going to crowded amusement parks, Fairs, school functions with the kids. For the sake of friendly discussion, does anyone else think that normal human shyness, social reticence, and sensory hypersensitivity has become increasingly over-pathologized? FTR...not being dismissive of anxiety disorders. I work in the mental health field, and I know for a fact that many people suffer from a legitimate chemical imbalance which causes them to experience organically caused mood disorders.
row_33 Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 11 minutes ago, Johnny Hammersticks said: No disrespect intended, but isn’t this the normal human experience? Does anyone really enjoy weaving through large crowds of strangers? I don’t have social anxiety, but I also dislike going to crowded amusement parks, Fairs, school functions with the kids. For the sake of friendly discussion, does anyone else think that normal human shyness, social reticence, and sensory hypersensitivity has become increasingly over-pathologized? FTR...not being dismissive of anxiety disorders. I work in the mental health field, and I know for a fact that many people suffer from a legitimate chemical imbalance which causes them to experience organically caused mood disorders. sounds good but if what we consider "normal" social interaction is ruining your existence, please come forward and seek help in ways to deal with it.....
Soda Popinski Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 Large crowds kill me. I've walked into the grocery store and then walked right back out. But last week we were school shopping for the boy and I said lets go down to 192 in Kissimmee (the touristy part of town by Disney) place was jam packed with people from all over the world, no manners, crawling all over each other. But I was fine. My son was dying to get out of there though so we left. If I'm mentally prepared for the chit show it's ok, but if it takes me off guard, i get antsy and want to get lost.
Johnny Hammersticks Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 (edited) 20 minutes ago, row_33 said: sounds good but if what we consider "normal" social interaction is ruining your existence, please come forward and seek help in ways to deal with it..... Of course. I think you’re missing my point. I feel that there has always been a “range of normalcy” with respect to an individual’s level of comfort in social situations. I work with children, and I see less tolerance for typical human differences. I feel that many children who are perhaps a little “shy” are often times quickly identified as having a mental health condition and put on meds. I don’t have any CDC stats to support this, but I would suspect that the prevalence of individuals diagnoses with SAD has exploded over the past 20 years. Just my subjective opinion as a mental health professional. Edited July 26, 2018 by Johnny Hammersticks Spelling
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