teef Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 At some point I'll just say I'm divorced that's actually a great idea. people will quickly leave you alone, or will try to set you up with someone. win win.
Jauronimo Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 doesn't every young guy say they're not getting married at some point? i certainly did at one point, but **** changes. the only annoying thing about not being married would be everyone wondering what was wrong with you. that's not a reason to get married, but get ready for the nonsense. Depends on where you live. In Rochester, you're a bit of a weirdo if you're 28 and single. NYC, on the other hand, is never never land, and you don't ever have to grow up and settle down if you don't want to.
Gugny Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 Depends on where you live. In Rochester, you're a bit of a weirdo if you're 28 and single. NYC, on the other hand, is never never land, and you don't ever have to grow up and settle down if you don't want to. Didn't Wilford Brimley say this in Cocoon?
teef Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 Depends on where you live. In Rochester, you're a bit of a weirdo if you're 28 and single. NYC, on the other hand, is never never land, and you don't ever have to grow up and settle down if you don't want to. this is actually pretty true. in rochester, if you're in your late 20s, decent looking, have a solid job, etc, and you're not married, people assume you're a closet weirdo or just gay. Didn't Wilford Brimley say this in Cocoon? no. he was too busy blasting some old school vag.
Johnny Hammersticks Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 no. he was too busy blasting some old school vag. Even with his diabeetus?!
teef Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 Even with his diabeetus?! no disease slowed that man down. can you imagine how bad that mustache must smell after going out with the old ladies?
Gugny Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 no disease slowed that man down. can you imagine how bad that mustache must smell after going out with the old ladies? "Sniff sniff .... you were out with Maude again, weren't you, Wil."
WhoTom Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 Don't end up like my Uncle Joe. Getting thrown out of the mall for making sexually inappropriate comments to elderly female mall walkers. Is this your Uncle Joe?
mead107 Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 I love my daughter to death. She's 13. And that's part of the problem. My less than scrupulous former spouse loves scheduling **** with her on the weekends i'm supposed to have her, in order to force me to say no. In that way, I'm made to be the "bad guy." So she's actively attempting to keep my kid from me. It hurts, and really drives my anger toward her, honestly.Then do the same plan something super cool that she will be mad at her mom if she does not let her go. Pay back is a B word.
Chef Jim Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 (edited) Marriage hasn't changed so much as the rest of the world has. The internet made everything different. Everyone (read: young people) have more options than ever and more opportunities to exercise those options. Seriously?? That damn internet. What it can't do. And you know now that I think about it millennials do have a challenge with regard to marriage. One week they identify as a girl the next as a boy. That could be confusing. Edited July 11, 2017 by Chef Jim
Augie Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 Seriously?? That damn internet. What it can't do. And you know now that I think about it millennials do have a challenge with regard to marriage. One week they identify as a girl the next as a boy. That could be confusing. Do you think me meant porn?
Chef Jim Posted July 11, 2017 Posted July 11, 2017 Do you think me meant porn? I'm not at all surprised that someone who has never been married thinks porn has changed marriage.
Augie Posted July 12, 2017 Posted July 12, 2017 It's only natural, some people just don't know what they don't know. People mature later these days, but they also live longer. I honestly do NOT mean that in a derogatory way. I've read studies about it, but I'm not sure why it's the case. I have a couple sons in their 20's, doing fairly well, but I was married and far more independent at thee same age. Maybe it's the parents enabling that allows it?
GaryPinC Posted July 12, 2017 Posted July 12, 2017 I love my daughter to death. She's 13. And that's part of the problem. My less than scrupulous former spouse loves scheduling **** with her on the weekends i'm supposed to have her, in order to force me to say no. In that way, I'm made to be the "bad guy." So she's actively attempting to keep my kid from me. It hurts, and really drives my anger toward her, honestly. I'm sorry you're not co-parenting, so glad my ex didn't put up a fight over that. It would have gotten ugly and she would have lost. My neighbor was in a similar situation as yours. He made the same choices you did. It is your choice not to fight for your time. Now my neighbor's daughter is a mess, flunked out of school and doesn't talk to either parent. As much as he loves his daughter he never fought enough for their relationship and was so consumed with his ex it indirectly poisoned his relationship with his daughter. Fight for your relationship with your daughter and be the bad guy. But open your heart to her and explain why without getting negative about her mom. Never do that as you are really insulting your daughter at the same time. Get your daughter a cell phone if she hasn't one and work out an arrangement between her and yourself. Take the high road, but take your ex to court every time over your visitation rights. Send everyone a message, especially your daughter. What you see as being considerate towards your daughter's time with friends/activities, your daughter can see as you not wanting to spend time with her. And from the sound of things, mom will directly put that idea in her head. Be consistent and as others have said make plans in advance for just you and her. What truly matters here? Your daughter is not stupid. She can feel the hostilities between her parents. And it tears her up and breaks her heart. Let it go. Be the rock for your daughter. See your ex for the coward she truly is and don't hate her. Realize you chose her and made a bad choice. Be happy you're not stuck in that situation anymore and stop letting your ex matter so much to you. Instead of doing the decent thing and ending things directly with you she chose the cowardly way. Regardless of everything else, at her very core that is who she is. Now she is boomeranging her self hate on to you every chance she gets. You will never see any satisfaction for the way she treated and is treating you now. Your only satisfaction will be to let it go and stand tall even when you've got nothing to stand on. Stand tall. Focus on your relationship with your daughter.
DC Tom Posted July 12, 2017 Posted July 12, 2017 since Tom is not around....IT'S YOU'RE, NOT YOUR....as in YOU ARE. Thanks. That was really egregious. Was actually visiting family this weekend (I feel obligated to do so every few years.) We were out for ice cream, and there was a security camera with a sign in it "Smile. Your on camera." !@#$ing !@#$tarded !@#$s.
mead107 Posted July 12, 2017 Posted July 12, 2017 I'm sorry you're not co-parenting, so glad my ex didn't put up a fight over that. It would have gotten ugly and she would have lost. My neighbor was in a similar situation as yours. He made the same choices you did. It is your choice not to fight for your time. Now my neighbor's daughter is a mess, flunked out of school and doesn't talk to either parent. As much as he loves his daughter he never fought enough for their relationship and was so consumed with his ex it indirectly poisoned his relationship with his daughter. Fight for your relationship with your daughter and be the bad guy. But open your heart to her and explain why without getting negative about her mom. Never do that as you are really insulting your daughter at the same time. Get your daughter a cell phone if she hasn't one and work out an arrangement between her and yourself. Take the high road, but take your ex to court every time over your visitation rights. Send everyone a message, especially your daughter. What you see as being considerate towards your daughter's time with friends/activities, your daughter can see as you not wanting to spend time with her. And from the sound of things, mom will directly put that idea in her head. Be consistent and as others have said make plans in advance for just you and her. What truly matters here? Your daughter is not stupid. She can feel the hostilities between her parents. And it tears her up and breaks her heart. Let it go. Be the rock for your daughter. See your ex for the coward she truly is and don't hate her. Realize you chose her and made a bad choice. Be happy you're not stuck in that situation anymore and stop letting your ex matter so much to you. Instead of doing the decent thing and ending things directly with you she chose the cowardly way. Regardless of everything else, at her very core that is who she is. Now she is boomeranging her self hate on to you every chance she gets. You will never see any satisfaction for the way she treated and is treating you now. Your only satisfaction will be to let it go and stand tall even when you've got nothing to stand on. Stand tall. Focus on your relationship with your daughter. well said
YoloinOhio Posted July 12, 2017 Posted July 12, 2017 if your talking to me then no....there is no going back Its a little too personal to talk about on a message board....but my life right now is chaos. Tough times dont last...tough people do sorry John Hope it gets better for you
Gugny Posted July 12, 2017 Posted July 12, 2017 sorry John Hope it gets better for you I somehow missed this post from John. I am sure things will get better, man. Hang in there.
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