Pine Barrens Mafia Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 I mean viscerally despise her? Just curious about the divorced dudes' feelings on this topic.
Marv's Neighbor Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 It's been soo long ago, can't even remember the b*tch.
Pine Barrens Mafia Posted July 9, 2017 Author Posted July 9, 2017 It's been soo long ago, can't even remember the b*tch. Oh so you mean it gets better then?
boyst Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 its never wrong, because as people we are just !@#$ed up. but its not healthy to hate anyone or anything.
Nervous Guy Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 but its not healthy to hate anyone. Yep waste of energy...I just hate heroin...full time.
thebug Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 I have a great ex-wife. We married young and when I dumped her, I had nothing for her to take! She was bitter for a while, but has gotten over it and now sends an email every now and then with friendly small talk. I like to remind my current wife that I have left every woman I have ever been with. Just to keep her in line! lol Yep waste of energy...I just hate heroin...full time. That's understandable.
4merper4mer Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 I mean viscerally despise her? Just curious about the divorced dudes' feelings on this topic. At least she didn't try to lure you in using the internet and chop you into little bits.
Pine Barrens Mafia Posted July 9, 2017 Author Posted July 9, 2017 At least she didn't try to lure you in using the internet and chop you into little bits. HA! No, instead she's tried to bankrupt me, held my kid hostage, and been miserable to try to work with. But no, not chopping into little bits.
TakeYouToTasker Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 I absolutely sympathize, but will offer this: if you do hate her, for as long as you do she'll be directly controlling a portion of your life that you've willfully given her.
Augie Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 Yep waste of energy...I just hate heroin...full time. ...and all of it's family members....
KD in CA Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 Last time I ever had any contact with her was 20 minutes before the divorce hearing. I was happy to be free and didn't waste much time looking backwards.
mead107 Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 You could take her deer hunting this fall. What made you fall in love with her in the first place and her in love with you? What made you fall out of love? Just wondering what make people fall in love and then out? Is it just the sex? Is it the commitment? Is she or he just nothing but a B word? Seems like a lot of people get pissed and next thing they are getting divorced.
WhoTom Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 It's fine to say, "I never want to see or hear from that person again," but hatred only poisons the hater.
Saxum Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 I mean viscerally despise her? Just curious about the divorced dudes' feelings on this topic. Depends, is she a Pats* fan? I have sympathy for her being married to you but not enough to overcome it if she is a Pats* fan. It's fine to say, "I never want to see or hear from that person again," but hatred only poisons the hater. Only if hater has a soul.
GaryPinC Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 I mean viscerally despise her? Just curious about the divorced dudes' feelings on this topic. It's not wrong, EXCEPT in front of the kids. But, is that who you are, a hateful person? Do you feel good about letting her continue to control who you are? At some point it's emotional poison. Best point post-divorce was fully knowing I was far better off without her and letting all that stuff go. I take full accounting for my mistakes and stopped obsessing about hers. I do retain a healthy disrespect/despisal for her in certain things but get along very well with her.
Mike in Horseheads Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 I mean viscerally despise her? Just curious about the divorced dudes' feelings on this topic. We had joint custody of the dog (seriously!). Once the dog passed that was the last time I saw her and that was pry 20 years ago. I don't hate her anymore but at the time of the divorce yupper.
Chef Jim Posted July 9, 2017 Posted July 9, 2017 I'm not here to say it's right or wrong but it sure seems weird to say you hate someone you at one point loved enough to marry.
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