Bray Wyatt Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 As Coach Tibs (Chicago Bulls, Minny T-Wolves) says: Bullcrap! I don't buy the "lack of energy" excuse. My children are 14 & 18 & we raised them 500+ miles from the closest family, AND both of us have two full time jobs... For years we were "two ships passing in the night"... We never contracted out any home chores, maintenance, etc... Blessing I work shift work though... But still, while working midnights, I would come home to my children raising duties after the grave yard shift and my wife would go off to work... Never had daycare much either. And in rare occasions we were both on weekday, day shifts... We might get a sitter, pre going to school days. Anyway... Do these people complain: http://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2017/03/12/517923490/how-does-a-nepalese-sherpa-carry-so-much-weight The just walk & carry, walk, carry & walk, carry some more... Sometimes carrying up to 175%...YES... 175% of their body weight! I have no tolerance for not keeping things ship shape. You work till "mission complete," then only then, rest... ...And boy does "la familia" fight me on this one, I do not relent... And it has made all the difference in our very isolated, independent life. You know... It raises children to fully understand what Coach Tibs hammers home above. Do your job and do your best! /rant_sorry :-) Yes sir! lol How funny I am a bulls fan and you use Tibs on me hahah still mad at management for getting rid of him. And I am in no way complaining, just calling it how it is Just some counter points, we both work full time on the same schedule, plus 4 years apart with kids is different then roughly 1 and a half years, but I mainly let her slide as I am sure there is **** I do that bothers her and the whole mantra of happy wife happy life. I figure if I am going to pick battles it will be over something more important than half drank soda cans and empty boxes so I pick them up
Pine Barrens Mafia Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 When you instill discipline into them.
Bray Wyatt Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 Mine will throw out full things if it expired last week, even spices which are just fine, thank you very much! "I was sure I had paprika! Oh, not AGAIN!" This bothers me to! Throws out the rest of gallons of milk if after the sell by date, I try telling her that is when they are supposed to be sold not used by! She is OCD when it comes to bacteria/germs. And yeah spices don't hurt you lol Had that conversation with mine. Also she found a piece of meat in tacos I made that was still red and accused me of trying to poison her, I just shook my head. I was able to convince her to try her steak medium well instead of well, and she was shocked that it tasted better
John from Riverside Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 Half drank water bottles left abandoned , empty boxes put back in the cupboards, messes that could have been cleaned up but ignored. How long until teenagers (15 & 13) become responsible?!?! I am not looking for sympathy here. just venting. One o my main jobs in the house is turning off light switches too. I have this going on in my house with my 21 year old daughter and boyfriend Maybe they never do?
ExiledInIllinois Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 when they are on their own and get an infestation of ants. LoL... And the "aunts" are close to being back again for the year... "That means everybody stay on top of their daily chores.. No excuses!" I really crack the whip! :-) This is a great thread... I am home alone, daughter in high school, wife @ work, son off living @ college... It is just me and the three cats and two guinea pigs. Pets... That is another life long PITA! To OP... Things get easier. :-/ Yes sir! lol How funny I am a bulls fan and you use Tibs on me hahah still mad at management for getting rid of him. And I am in no way complaining, just calling it how it is Just some counter points, we both work full time on the same schedule, plus 4 years apart with kids is different then roughly 1 and a half years, but I mainly let her slide as I am sure there is **** I do that bothers her and the whole mantra of happy wife happy life. I figure if I am going to pick battles it will be over something more important than half drank soda cans and empty boxes so I pick them up We sound like kindred spirits. I am a flaming liberal though... And let them slide all the time! It's my empathy and "Energizer Bunny" in me! My will to make socialism work. ;-) My children also 4 years apart. LoL...
Bray Wyatt Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 LoL... And the "aunts" are close to being back again for the year... "That means everybody stay on top of their daily chores.. No excuses!" I really crack the whip! :-) This is a great thread... I am home alone, daughter in high school, wife @ work, son off living @ college... It is just me and the three cats and two guinea pigs. Pets... That is another life long PITA! To OP... Things get easier. :-/ We sound like kindred spirits. I am a flaming liberal though... And let them slide all the time! It's my empathy and "Energizer Bunny" in me! My will to make socialism work. ;-) My children also 4 years apart. LoL... Ah yes we will most certainly differ here, but its all good if we all thought the same the world would be boring. I am the one that is strict, my wife lets them slide, although right now that consists of me taking things away lol and the 4 years is for yours I was saying mine are only 18 months apart roughly
ExiledInIllinois Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 Ah yes we will most certainly differ here, but its all good if we all thought the same the world would be boring. I am the one that is strict, my wife lets them slide, although right now that consists of me taking things away lol and the 4 years is for yours I was saying mine are only 18 months apart roughly Oops... That is right. 18 months apart is almost "Irish Twin" territory! My bad. You guys were keeping busy! ;-) When you instill discipline into them. Or they rebel. Discipline starts with the parents. In many ways. Get that right, and early, stay the course and 9/10 times things magically filter down.
shrader Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 Mine will throw out full things if it expired last week, even spices which are just fine, thank you very much! "I was sure I had paprika! Oh, not AGAIN!" We could make another thread on this subject. My wife will just throw all the mail on the counter each day, never in the same space twice. Every now and then I will find a month old bill buried somewhere. Most recently, she got a new AAA card in the mail and never opened it. I found it, opened it, and told her to put the card in her wallet. She ignored that. Each of the last three days, I have put that card directly on top of her wallet in her purse at night,and each day, it winds up back on top of the counter. I was really tempted to stop by her school this morning to slash her tires.
ExiledInIllinois Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 (edited) Don't blame the kids, you brought them up like that.Yep! That is what is underneath it all with my bellyaching. I did acknowledge that I enable. But, I do ease up between these four walls. Where I really hold them accountable is when they walk outside those four walls of the home. That's where you will see the fruits of one's labor really take hold! That is when you will see if what you are doing needs to be corrected. Every parent's goal should be to get off their lazy azz and help make their children productive, respectful, citizens. This of course doesn't mean turn "helicopter parent" on them either. "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference." Edited March 22, 2017 by ExiledInIllinois
Bray Wyatt Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 Yep! That is what is underneath it all with my bellyaching. I did acknowledge that I enable. But, I do ease up between these four walls. Where I really hold them accountable is when they walk outside those four walls of the home. That's where you will see the fruits of one's labor really take hold! That is when you will see if what you are doing needs to be corrected. Every parent's goal should be to get off their lazy azz and help make their children productive, respectful, citizens. This of course doesn't mean turn "helicopter parent" on them either. "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference." You sure you are a liberal??!?!
SlimShady'sSpaceForce Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 That's not good, 1 or 2 that you happen upon isn't a panic-time though. Depends on what you mean by ants, in residence they had large carpenters on a lower floor that they couldn't get rid of all year. one day 10 or 15 showed up on the window sill, 10 or 15 more the next day. I told em to spray raid all over the the window sill inside and out, repeat until they are all gone. Now we'll see if it was just a random thing when the warm weather hits.
ExiledInIllinois Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 (edited) We could make another thread on this subject. My wife will just throw all the mail on the counter each day, never in the same space twice. Every now and then I will find a month old bill buried somewhere. Most recently, she got a new AAA card in the mail and never opened it. I found it, opened it, and told her to put the card in her wallet. She ignored that. Each of the last three days, I have put that card directly on top of her wallet in her purse at night,and each day, it winds up back on top of the counter. I was really tempted to stop by her school this morning to slash her tires. Thanx for the memory jog... Same boat here! Wife's AAA card is still sitting on the presque isle... We put things on a dessert plate stacky thingy. We call that part of the kitchen counter "the presque isle" since the counter is "not quite" an island. He he... My wife would just call me first! :-/ Card has been on plate for a month! Don't slash. It is like launching nuclear waste at sun, it will fly right back at you and make more work... All "family learning" lessons end horribly bad like that for me! You sure you are a liberal??!?! I "classic" sense. Jesus Christ kinda way. ;-) Edited March 22, 2017 by ExiledInIllinois
DC Tom Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 reminds me of when I got back home after I got married. We drove seperately to the venue because I slept at my Dad's the night before with the whole can't see the bride before the wedding thing. I came to the bedroom and she was in bed wearing her lingerie. I told her "I love you very much and I know we just got married but I don't have an ounce of energy to have sex with you and I really really want to sleep." She let out this huge sigh of relief and exclaimed "Thank God!" I think it took us two full days of rest to get back to normal. I don't know a single person that doesn't have this same story.
RaoulDuke79 Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 (edited) Half drank water bottles left abandoned , empty boxes put back in the cupboards, messes that could have been cleaned up but ignored. How long until teenagers (15 & 13) become responsible?!?! I am not looking for sympathy here. just venting. One o my main jobs in the house is turning off light switches too. I got a 2 year old who we suspect pushed the toilet tank and caused the seals to break which ended up doing about $8K worth of water damage to the house. This happened the week before Christmas and we're still under construction. There no such thing as down time man. I'm always tired. Edited March 22, 2017 by RaoulDuke79
Augie Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 We could make another thread on this subject. My wife will just throw all the mail on the counter each day, never in the same space twice. Every now and then I will find a month old bill buried somewhere. Most recently, she got a new AAA card in the mail and never opened it. I found it, opened it, and told her to put the card in her wallet. She ignored that. Each of the last three days, I have put that card directly on top of her wallet in her purse at night,and each day, it winds up back on top of the counter. I was really tempted to stop by her school this morning to slash her tires. Yeah, THAT will show her!!!
4BillsintheBurgh Posted March 22, 2017 Posted March 22, 2017 Half drank water bottles left abandoned , empty boxes put back in the cupboards, messes that could have been cleaned up but ignored. How long until teenagers (15 & 13) become responsible?!?! I am not looking for sympathy here. just venting. One o my main jobs in the house is turning off light switches too. Just get them out of the house asap, it's too late for you.
BUFFALOKIE Posted March 23, 2017 Posted March 23, 2017 This thread makes me want to ask: Any other single dad's around here? I've been on my own with the kids since my son was six and my daughter was one. I have both grandma's support, thank God, but it hasn't been easy. My boy is 19 now and my daughter is just about to turn 14. My son is a neat freak and my girl is a slob...
RaoulDuke79 Posted March 23, 2017 Posted March 23, 2017 This thread makes me want to ask: Any other single dad's around here? I've been on my own with the kids since my son was six and my daughter was one. I have both grandma's support, thank God, but it hasn't been easy. My boy is 19 now and my daughter is just about to turn 14. My son is a neat freak and my girl is a slob... God bless you man. I don't know if I could do it.
ExiledInIllinois Posted March 24, 2017 Posted March 24, 2017 This thread makes me want to ask: Any other single dad's around here? I've been on my own with the kids since my son was six and my daughter was one. I have both grandma's support, thank God, but it hasn't been easy. My boy is 19 now and my daughter is just about to turn 14. My son is a neat freak and my girl is a slob... Awesome job... It can be tough. I got two that can be slobs... Because they know, Me, daddy can be a neat freak! :-/ Funny story... My Grandmother would work as a part-time cleaning lady in Cheektowaga schools back in the day. She never drove... So I would pick her up in the evening after she was down cleaning JFK Jr. High. Boy would she rant how the world was going to hell in a hand basket and especially females. She said the girls made the biggest messes... Boys not so bad... LoL! This was back in the 1980s.
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