Canadian Bills Fan Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 My dad always told me growing up "there is always time to do both" meaning there will be time to do work and time to kick back and relax. Dont do too much of one thing. And a little humor but also true, Never trust a girl when she says shes on the pill CBF
Gordio Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 Tell him to take advantage of the opportunity he's been given. Be ready, booze and girls are fun, but not worth jeopardizing his future (as someone who lost a full academic scholarship, it's tough to claw your way back). Tell him to be himself. He'll find people that accept him for exactly who he is. He'll also find people who challenge him, they're just as important. Tell him to live in the dorms for at least two years. Off campus is fun, but he'll always remember dorm life. Tell him to call you every few weeks. He'll be excited to tell you about everything. Be excited to hear it. Tell him you're proud of him. Tell him you love him. He knows, but it's always good to hear. Lastly, tell him that if it smells like perfume, there's probably a reason. I hear wht you guys are saying & my oldest is only 11 but grades aren't the end all be all. I drank 6 days a week when I was in college & still got my finance degree with a solid 2.3 GPA. I got a job 2 months after I got out of college & 20 years later I am doing just fine. My point is don't blow off your studies, but it is important to have some fun too. In a lot of ways, if college is done right, it should be one of the funnest times of your life. Congrats to the OP! Job well done as a parent.
LB3 Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 I hear wht you guys are saying & my oldest is only 11 but grades aren't the end all be all. I drank 6 days a week when I was in college & still got my finance degree with a solid 2.3 GPA. I got a job 2 months after I got out of college & 20 years later I am doing just fine. My point is don't blow off your studies, but it is important to have some fun too. In a lot of ways, if college is done right, it should be one of the funnest times of your life. Congrats to the OP! Job well done as a parent. I agree, college should be fun, but if a kid is graduating with a 2.3 at this time, he will not find a job in his chosen field. There are many more kids with the same degree and better grades that won't be able to find jobs.
The BLUES Brothers Posted August 28, 2015 Author Posted August 28, 2015 What school? Niagara University, a smaller school about 90 minutes from Rochester - Not too Close Not to far. He has his Bills Blanket packed that he will display on his Bed Proudly! His roommate is going to be from Syracuse and surprisingly is a Philadelphia Eagles Fan - so it starts the other learning part of college - learning to get along with others ha ha. Thanks Again for all of your Valued Input & Go Bills!
CodeMonkey Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 After he first arrives until he gets comfortable with the living situation and school processes, keep his mouth shut and his eyes and ears open and he should learn a lot. My daughter went to college in a different state. We made a deal that she would call every Wednesday evening and every Sunday morning. Ten years later, she lives on the other side of the country, and she still calls every Wednesday evening and every Sunday morning. I can't stress how important that is, on many levels. My son went to school locally and lives just a few minutes away. We never made any deals about calling since he was so close. It turns out, he almost never calls, and if he does it usually means he needs something. I think some of that is the difference between sons and daughters as well.
KD in CA Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 I plan on telling him to get a good education, enjoy the ride and be responsible. However I am asking if any Dads out there (or sons who received good advice) could share some wisdom so I can make sure I make the most of the teachable moments on the Ride to College. Rule #1: Wear a condom.
Gordio Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 I agree, college should be fun, but if a kid is graduating with a 2.3 at this time, he will not find a job in his chosen field. There are many more kids with the same degree and better grades that won't be able to find jobs. Yeah that is what they said back when I graduated too. I just lied on my resume & said I got a 3.6. . It worked out great for me. I know it is different now. I am just kidding around. Much more competitive than back then. Even my son, he is going into 6th grade. I swear he does more homework in 1 week than I did in 4 years of college. lol
machine gun kelly Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 Beef on Weck - I'm a bit behind you as my oldest of three is 16. One thing I've told my kids many times is always do the right thing when no one is in the room. If you live your life with integrity, the rest of the decisions take care of themselves including wearing a condem, stay on top of your studies, don't get in a car with someone drunk, nor as their friend let them do so even without you. My oldest is a good boy and the typical popular athlete with a nice girlfriend, etc. They key is everything that has happened for the last 18 years in your case. It's easier said than done, so I know I will on the inside be a basket case each of mine leaves, but they won't see it. Thank you for starting this thread, and I couldn't agree more that we have good people on this board, and by your interest, you are one of them. I'll make sure to say a prayer for your kid, and more importantly for you as I bet he'll be fine. Lastly, God Bless our Bills and for passing that torch from father to son (child). I know my boys were born and raised in Tampa, and they are diehard Bills fans. 19-0 Baby!
The BLUES Brothers Posted August 28, 2015 Author Posted August 28, 2015 I am humbled ....the more I read - the more I am glad I had the courage to start this - as hoped and pretty much expected - Great cordial, compassionate and funny replies to make my day! YOU are The Best Fans (and People)! Thanks for sharing! Go Bills!!!
nicinar Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 My daughter just started her junior year at a big SEC school about 5 hours away. Freshman drop off was tough. First, I told her don't bring home a Cowboys fan. If someone makes fun of the Bills or Sabres, walk away. You always always always use a condom. Everything in moderation. I went to college, I know drinking is going to happen. Moderation. Just don't put yourself at risk. They have a safe ride program that she can call 24/7 with no judgment. Use it if you need it. School is the reason you're there. Make it a priority but have some fun. Texting keeps us talking all the time. The campus is huge, so she calls me when she's walking to class. Now, the bonuses of having a kid in college... I swear, we have 1/3 of the laundry we have when she's home. And dishes. And our food budget seems nonexistant now that she's gone. Things stay clean. There's no fighting between her and her sister. Nice and quiet. And when she comes home, it's amazing! You'll do fine. It's hard and you'll tear up, but he will make you proud.
LB3 Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 Yeah that is what they said back when I graduated too. I just lied on my resume & said I got a 3.6. . It worked out great for me. I know it is different now. I am just kidding around. Much more competitive than back then. Even my son, he is going into 6th grade. I swear he does more homework in 1 week than I did in 4 years of college. lol Cheers
Malazan Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 Don't put your d*ck in crazy. It's never worth it in the end.
Keukasmallies Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 Don't make the mistake of confusing success with happiness.
hondo in seattle Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 1. As has been said before, choose your friends wisely. Hang out with guys of high character who you can trust, rather than guys who appear superficially exciting. 2. Remember, your life has a purpose and college is part of that purpose. Have fun - but attend classes, study, and get the kind of grades that will open up doors for you later on.
firemedic Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 (edited) Sir, Make sure he sees and UNDERSTANDS the opportunity in front of him. There are many more people out there that I see on the job, WITHOUT opportunity. As a father with special needs children, I know. It's an agony no parent or children should have to endure for a lifetime but so many do. And those are just two facets of opportunity lost...... Make sure he holds himself to a higher standard. As a firefighter, I'm forced to, and that's a good thing....makes it easier to live with oneself. Establish the importance of service, whatever it might be, it will help ground him. Make him understand competition......AGAINST HIMSELF. If a test gets the better of him, he needs to find out why, and destroy it next time. It is critical to KNOW WHEN THERE ISN'T A NEXT TIME, especially in life, and of getting it right the first time. ACCOUNTABILITY AND RESPONSIBILITY......'nuff said. Best of luck to him (and you GO BILLS! Edited August 28, 2015 by firemedic
Just Jack Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 Some stuff from my sister-in-law, a professor at a college... Your son is responsible now for how they do in school, not you the parent. Do the work, attend classes, do the reading. Showing up at the teachers office, a week before finals, and asking if there's any extra credit you can do to pass the class after missing most of the semester and not doing the work or taking the tests does not help. And having the parents call the Dean because the teacher is being mean does not help.
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