The BLUES Brothers Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 My son Loves the Buffalo Bills because his ol' man (and his Grandfather, Uncles ) have Always Loved Buffalo Bills... Going to a game annually through his School years, watching Games every weekend obviously helped us bond. A lot of kids in his school would like whoever was in the Playoffs but he is dedicated to our Buffalo Bills as hard as we know that can be... We take him to College this weekend. I plan on telling him to get a good education, enjoy the ride and be responsible. However I am asking if any Dads out there (or sons who received good advice) could share some wisdom so I can make sure I make the most of the teachable moments on the Ride to College. I would understand if this topic gets closed or removed - but I am sincere about getting insight from some of the smart, witty, caring fellow Bills fans out there.
Augie Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 (edited) A fake ID to buy beer can be a felony - and rather expensive. You CAN get expelled during orientation for certain offenses, it happened to two kids in my son's freshman class. That's a very long ride back home with mom and dad! Oh, looking for something a little more heart warming? I stayed in close touch with my kids in college and, like my relationship with my own father, the Bills were always a bonding topic we could all relate to. It's a magical connection and it lasts long past college. Enjoy the trip and the peace when you return home. You get used to it... EDIT: My son hangs a huge Bills banner on the wall above his bed for the 5th straight year (getting his Masters). There's no doubt where his allegiance lies, and it sticks out a bit living in Florida. Edited August 28, 2015 by Augie
Tipster19 Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 (edited) I sure hope that this topic doesn't get closed or moved, it represents a Bills' fan better than anything that I can think of! It's a rite of passage and I feel for you, I speak from experience. This is EXACTLY what a Bills' fan is all about, passing from generation to generation! Just know this, there isn't anything that you can say, do or transcend on this short trip to college that would exceed the love that you have already invested in this young man over the years. Take comfort in knowing this, no matter where your son is, no matter how many years eclipse, whenever he sees, hears or thinks of the Bills he's going to think of YOU! How great is that??! The only thing that I can think of that you can tell your son is what I have always professed to my kids and that is to follow your heart. If a situation arises and he doesn't know what to do than do what feels right. Fruit doesn't fall far from the tree and if you raised him right, and it sounds like you did, than you'll have nothing to worry about. Oh, and one other thing, tell him that you love him of course! Go Bills! Edited August 28, 2015 by Tipster19
boyst Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 It will get moved, Shirley. To Off The Wall I would tell them to do what I did not, advice I was not given until too late. To just buckle down and focus on my education for 4 years. Don't worry about the parties and drinking, getting laid any of that. Just focus on school first and foremost. He'll have all the world at his feet when he gets out of school with a diploma in hand. He'll have income to enjoy the things he wants to do. College should be fun and he should get some real world experience. Don't obsess over it, but if he gets the chance he should study abroad, or two.
Simon Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 My son Loves the Buffalo Bills because his ol' man (and his Grandfather, Uncles ) have Always Loved Buffalo Bills... Going to a game annually through his School years, watching Games every weekend obviously helped us bond. A lot of kids in his school would like whoever was in the Playoffs but he is dedicated to our Buffalo Bills as hard as we know that can be... We take him to College this weekend. I plan on telling him to get a good education, enjoy the ride and be responsible. However I am asking if any Dads out there (or sons who received good advice) could share some wisdom so I can make sure I make the most of the teachable moments on the Ride to College. I would understand if this topic gets closed or removed - but I am sincere about getting insight from some of the smart, witty, caring fellow Bills fans out there. I just became an empty-nester last Friday, when I took my last baby off to college. I tried not to lecture him too much but a couple of the things I told him last week were... > Get off to a really kick-ass start so you're always ahead of the game > Choose your friends wisely > Control your life so that it doesn't control you > The harder you work first, the better your play will be later
The BLUES Brothers Posted August 28, 2015 Author Posted August 28, 2015 If it does get removed I am already so glad I asked out loud ... Thank you for taking the time to help share these insights and words to help me help him. You have already made an excellent difference!! Thank You Again & Go Bills!!!
LB3 Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 (edited) Tell him to take advantage of the opportunity he's been given. Be ready, booze and girls are fun, but not worth jeopardizing his future (as someone who lost a full academic scholarship, it's tough to claw your way back). Tell him to be himself. He'll find people that accept him for exactly who he is. He'll also find people who challenge him, they're just as important. Tell him to live in the dorms for at least two years. Off campus is fun, but he'll always remember dorm life. Tell him to call you every few weeks. He'll be excited to tell you about everything. Be excited to hear it. Tell him you're proud of him. Tell him you love him. He knows, but it's always good to hear. Lastly, tell him that if it smells like perfume, there's probably a reason. Edited August 28, 2015 by LBSeeBallLBGetBall
jr1 Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 tell him to try his best and always be honest with the professors
The Dean Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 Outstanding. No advice since I have no children. But let me say, congrats to you and your son. Best of luck to both of you. I think just the fact you are involved and so concerned, bodes well for his chances.
Bad Things Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 The day before I moved out to Colorado, my Uncle Horst left me with these words of wisdom... "Mark, don't let the little head think for the big head."
thebug Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 Some good stuff so far. I would add - Be a leader, not a follower!
Giaimo25 Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 I have 3 kids, and all of them very different. You will know what to say better than any of us here, as you have raised this young man. Just the fact that you are here asking for advice tells me that you are a great parent that has raised him right. You can tell him not to party, and not chase tail till your blue in the face, but the reality is that he is a young man like we all were once. Going to college is a huge deal, and an opportunity that not everyone is afforded. There is a balance that needs to be found between work and play, but the work will pay off in the long run. Best of luck to him, and you, dad!
The BLUES Brothers Posted August 28, 2015 Author Posted August 28, 2015 I read the forums Every day here at Stadium Wall and rarely post but again - so very glad I asked! I have literally taken notes to blend just about All of these nuggets of Gold into the wise nurturing guidance I want to use to help him succeed while having some fun making these College memories. I also even took a picture of the Buffalo & Bison cartoon for a little timely humor (like when my wife will get emotional during The Goodbye). Words may not express my Attitude of Gratitude - Continued & Genuine Thanks to you All from the bottom of my Heart.
Bill from NYC Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 My son Loves the Buffalo Bills because his ol' man (and his Grandfather, Uncles ) have Always Loved Buffalo Bills... Going to a game annually through his School years, watching Games every weekend obviously helped us bond. A lot of kids in his school would like whoever was in the Playoffs but he is dedicated to our Buffalo Bills as hard as we know that can be... We take him to College this weekend. I plan on telling him to get a good education, enjoy the ride and be responsible. However I am asking if any Dads out there (or sons who received good advice) could share some wisdom so I can make sure I make the most of the teachable moments on the Ride to College. I would understand if this topic gets closed or removed - but I am sincere about getting insight from some of the smart, witty, caring fellow Bills fans out there. I took my daughter away to college. She graduated in 2006 and I am still not over the trauma. Tell him how easy it is to get into trouble these days. When you go pick him up, bring him out to eat and tell him to bring a friend or 2. It costs money but at least you can check out who he is hanging out with. You will be counting the minutes between holiday breaks, etc. Make the most of all of them. Keep praying and encourage him to do the same. It's rough but you'll be alright Bro.
Agent 91 Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 From my experiences in college (not a father). Tell him to go have fun. Enjoy different people. Go to as many events as possible. Poor students live for the free food. Manage time wisely. Do all your work early. Visit professors ANYTIME something is unclear. But most of all that you love him are proud of him and you will always be there for him. Outside of that, especially if he is an athlete. STAY AWAY FROM THE WOMEN.
Gray Beard Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 My daughter went to college in a different state. We made a deal that she would call every Wednesday evening and every Sunday morning. Ten years later, she lives on the other side of the country, and she still calls every Wednesday evening and every Sunday morning. I can't stress how important that is, on many levels. My son went to school locally and lives just a few minutes away. We never made any deals about calling since he was so close. It turns out, he almost never calls, and if he does it usually means he needs something.
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