Just Jack Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 http://www.thespec.com/news-story/3845206-have-your-say-about-the-firestorm-over-a-wedding-gift/
BuffaloBill Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 The brides were ignorant. Though as a rule of thumb I have heard that a gift should have the expected value of the meal for you and your guest assuming you can afford it. The brides also forgot that money was spent to get there, clothes may have bee purchased and there is value in a friendship.
Chef Jim Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 The brides were ignorant. Though as a rule of thumb I have heard that a gift should have the expected value of the meal for you and your guest assuming you can afford it. The brides also forgot that money was spent to get there, clothes may have bee purchased and there is value in a friendship. The gift should be the same value as the meal?? Are you !@#$ing kidding me? For almost every wedding gift we have given it was the value of what they wanted where they were registered that fit our budget at that particular time in our lives. Man etiquette is certainly a thing of the past.
The Poojer Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 judging by the fact that they used 'Your an idiot' 'gunna' and 'george carlon' i am seriously questioning the authenticity of either side of the argument.
DC Tom Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 This is why I don't have friends. Stupid !@#$ing people.
KD in CA Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 The chicks are a couple of idiots and "Laura" is one angry person. Guess we know who the husband is in that marriage. But I love the "weddings are to make money for your future" line. Emily Post would be proud.
ExiledInIllinois Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 Not that I condone the behavior of calling them out... People give what they want to give. But, it is kind of an embarassing gift. I wonder how much they really spent on it? 20 bucks? Why not just let it go? Oh wait, that is what the husband/groom would have told her! http://bigthink.com/dollars-and-sex/are-lesbian-marriages-doomed-for-failure
meazza Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 The gift should be the same value as the meal?? Are you !@#$ing kidding me? For almost every wedding gift we have given it was the value of what they wanted where they were registered that fit our budget at that particular time in our lives. Man etiquette is certainly a thing of the past. Rule of thumb for italian weddings is you pay your plate + a bit more. Nothing spreads more among a social circle than a light envelope.
NoSaint Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 Rule of thumb for italian weddings is you pay your plate + a bit more. Nothing spreads more among a social circle than a light envelope. That's what I've also heard too, but I'd be far more embarassed about the "just so you know, you came up short" text message
meazza Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 That's what I've also heard too, but I'd be far more embarassed about the "just so you know, you came up short" text message Yep. You don't comment about the gift. You just destroy the persons reputation behind their back like any normal group of friends.
ExiledInIllinois Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 Rule of thumb for italian weddings is you pay your plate + a bit more. Nothing spreads more among a social circle than a light envelope. Yep. Yep. You don't comment about the gift. You just destroy the persons reputation behind their back like any normal group of friends. LoL...
boyst Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 Finally had time to read this. I have told my girlfriend if we ever get married, or I ever get married I am not having a wedding. I do not want to bother people to get me gifts, make a scene, or just impose on people. I know a few folks, not a social butterfly at all, but no one needs to get me anything. Any time I have been to a wedding I have got what I could afford. Not much. An ex invited me to Ohio to go to her wedding. On my birthday. Even in some text messages it naturally came up she wanted a bread maker, because she knows I have one. She expected one. I said I would give her some beefs. She declined. I didn't even go or want to go. Weddings are stupid.
meazza Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 So am I supposed to call the caterer to ask how much they're charging per plate? I give what I want. !@#$ the social circles. No. Generally the person organizing keeps it under $200 a plate so the safe bet is to give about $200. I don't agree with it. It's a ponzi scheme.
The Poojer Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 bull ****! $200??? http://www.smartmoney.com/spend/family-money/the-wedding-gift-etiquette-guide-23264/ http://magazine.foxnews.com/love/refined-rules-wedding-gift-etiquette http://www.emilypost.com/weddings/wedding-registries-gifts-and-thank-yous/169-wedding-gift-tips
meazza Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 (edited) bull ****! $200??? http://www.smartmoney.com/spend/family-money/the-wedding-gift-etiquette-guide-23264/ http://magazine.foxnews.com/love/refined-rules-wedding-gift-etiquette http://www.emilypost.com/weddings/wedding-registries-gifts-and-thank-yous/169-wedding-gift-tips I give $200 for normal friends. $250 for close friends. $300+ for family Edited June 22, 2013 by meazza
The Poojer Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 i know who's going on my wedding list I give $200 for normal friends. $250 for close friends. $300+ for family
ExiledInIllinois Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 No. Generally the person organizing keeps it under $200 a plate so the safe bet is to give about $200. I don't agree with it. It's a ponzi scheme. Exactly.
meazza Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 i know who's going on my wedding list As long as there is open bar and good food
ExiledInIllinois Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 (edited) i know who's going on my wedding list Family... Like nieces and nephews... Today's going rate is about 500. A little more if they are God Children... I give $200 for normal friends. $250 for close friends. $300+ for family Right on the money! Why stick them in a hole... If so, just give regrets and send them something small! This basket of pasta and what not is embarrassing... That is something you send if you give your regrets... IMO. Edited June 22, 2013 by ExiledInIllinois
Chef Jim Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 Family... Like nieces and nephews... Today's going rate is about 500. A little more if they are God Children... What a bunch of money grubbing little bastages.
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