BillsBytheBay Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I'm just going to say that MD could learn a few things from Mantai T'eo. I get that you can be sad after a close relative dies. But that doesn't mean you let it affect your job so negatively. It's like when a soldier goes to war, the term is that to a large degree, they have to put their personal life in a box. T'eo handled his grief constructively and in a way it seems to have actually helped his game, because it was a vent for his emotions. It doesn't seem like MD was (and maybe, is) coping healthily. im not going to leave it at crickets. You're no better than ESPN. Heard a story, than built an assumption based on your preconceived notions of dealing with tragedy. Than put the kid down for dealing with it in his own way. Bravo. I doubt anyone called Dareus a bust. I expressed my displeasure that the bills earned another bad break with a player who sucked the first half of the year. I said the same about mario millions. I don't think either guy stinks its just that this half assed steaming pile of fail can't afford anymore players who take games off if this sorry ass team ever expects to play respectable football. 99.9% of all the criticism of the bills is frustration over 13 years of the biggest display of ineptitude by any team in the nfl besides the expansion bucs teams. At least they had an excuse. i wish I took names. Many people called him a bust. It was like they forgot his brother just was murdered. Or apparently he didn't deal with it well enough for some folks. Not cancer. Not an accident. MURDER.
Rob's House Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I predicted in the midst of the Mario hate that he would get it together & be a cornerstone of our D for years to come. I predict (admittedly a little less confidently) that Dareus will do the same. Sophomore slumps are fairly common, he had some outside issues to help explain it, & even at that he showed flashes. He'll be who we expected next year. And enough w/ piling on UConn James. I don't share his sentiment, but he just said what he thought on a message board. To see this reaction you'd have thought he walked up to Dareus & told him to stop being a kitty.
BillsBytheBay Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Rob, your right. But it still irks me. Fans like to hear the feel good story's. even when all the facts don't add up. But a kid who deals with genuine tragedy, comes to work every day, but is distracted is called a bust. He needs to "solider up" or some crap like that. Most have dealt with death in some way. I would say fewer have had a family member murdered. Or died in a car accident, after dying from cancer, discovered in the fatal accident. In a town that doesn't exist. After nobody met you.... Was that to much?
John from Riverside Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 UCONN......your gonna have a tough time living this one down....although I am sure the mante teo thing took you by suprise as much as everyone else..... Bottom line....if you dont walk in a persons shoes you just dont know my bills brethren
Jim in Anchorage Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 poor baby Dareus. When my mom[who I was very close to] passed it was 3 days off then back to work. And I was expected to produce as normal. But I am not a NFL player making millions who can take a year off and get paid just a working stiff.
Kiwi Bills fan Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 (edited) Jeez... Edited January 17, 2013 by Kiwi Bills fan
billsfan89 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Been saying Dareus personal issues may have played a factor along with playing in a new defense, I expect big things from Dareus he tempered a lot of concerns with his improved play
bmur66 Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I haven't read the arcticle yet but I'm tellin ya right now. Dareus will be pro bowl caliber this year.
RealityCheck Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 poor baby Dareus. When my mom[who I was very close to] passed it was 3 days off then back to work. And I was expected to produce as normal. But I am not a NFL player making millions who can take a year off and get paid just a working stiff.
BuffaloBill Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 poor baby Dareus. When my mom[who I was very close to] passed it was 3 days off then back to work. And I was expected to produce as normal. But I am not a NFL player making millions who can take a year off and get paid just a working stiff. I am in no way making light of your mother's passing. Loss of anyone you are close to is never easy. The point with Dareus is that at such a young age he has dealt with multiple losses. Clearly, his play was impacted. So should the Bills have benched him or cut him this year?
Fezmid Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 poor baby Dareus. When my mom[who I was very close to] passed it was 3 days off then back to work. And I was expected to produce as normal. But I am not a NFL player making millions who can take a year off and get paid just a working stiff. Was your mom murdered? When she was in her 20s?
Maury Ballstein Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I'm just going to say that MD could learn a few things from Mantai T'eo. I get that you can be sad after a close relative dies. But that doesn't mean you let it affect your job so negatively. It's like when a soldier goes to war, the term is that to a large degree, they have to put their personal life in a box. T'eo handled his grief constructively and in a way it seems to have actually helped his game, because it was a vent for his emotions. It doesn't seem like MD was (and maybe, is) coping healthily. in hindsight............we now have a nomination to join Mario for Skelton here............play like Teo after his pretend girlfriend died? this is gold jerrry..........GOLD!!!
Gugny Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Wow. A little perspective appears necessary for a couple posters within this thread. Football ... it's a game.
GG Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Rob, your right. But it still irks me. Fans like to hear the feel good story's. even when all the facts don't add up. .... Or died in a car accident, after dying from cancer, discovered in the fatal accident. In a town that doesn't exist. After nobody met you.... Was that to much? Are you asking readers to be accountable for fact checking the news presented in virtually all national print, online and TV outlets?
Matt in KC Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 The poor guy sounds like he has PTSD / depression. I hope he's seeing a professional to help him work through it... (preferably someone who lives close).
mattsox Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Very good piece. I continue to be a huge fan of Dareus. Hope for the Best. We need his Killer Instinct to come out next season and tare it up!!!
GG Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Hope for the Best. We need his Killer Instinct to come out next season and tare it up!!! Probably better to rephrase the above if you hope to improve Dareus' mental state.
Doc Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 Are you kidding me? Did you read the entire article? Dad dead at 6. Grandmother who helped raise him, dead @13. Father figure high school coach dead in car crash @ 18. Mom wheelchair bound and dead of congestive heart failure @20. Younger brother Simeon who he helped mentor and was close to, dead this year. Dareus has been afraid to leave his house other than to go play football. And you blithely think he should be able to wall all this off and pour everything into his job? It's one thing when a close relative dies, it's another when your life is full of those scenarios. Dareus is pretty much a hero in my book being able to do so well for himself in spite of how he grew up. And it explains his early season performances. Ever wonder why the Buffalo News never seems to be able to get a story like this? Wow, that's pretty rough. Losing 3 parents before the age of 21 is horrible enough, but losing a little brother is worse. In a perfect world, you shouldn't outlive your kids or your younger siblings.
Shoutbox Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 The poor guy sounds like he has PTSD / depression. I hope he's seeing a professional to help him work through it... (preferably someone who lives close). Or at least no professionals from the state of Connecticut with the name of James or Alaska with the name of Jim.
Malazan Posted January 17, 2013 Posted January 17, 2013 I'm just going to say that MD could learn a few things from Mantai T'eo. I get that you can be sad after a close relative dies. But that doesn't mean you let it affect your job so negatively. It's like when a soldier goes to war, the term is that to a large degree, they have to put their personal life in a box. T'eo handled his grief constructively and in a way it seems to have actually helped his game, because it was a vent for his emotions. It doesn't seem like MD was (and maybe, is) coping healthily. I don't think killing off your fake girlfriend is responding in a healthy manner
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