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Actually, I agree with Cinga here now that he's made me think about it. It is taking a cultural descriptor and turning into a perjorative, which is unnecessarily hurtful and unintentionally (usually) bigoted towards those to whom the descriptor actually applies. It's really no different than calling something that is stupid and undesirable "gay".

 

It would be more cut'n'dried if language were static. But it isn't. There are any number of things for which ANY word that is used for it, even a purely clinical nonjudgmental descriptor quickly becomes a pejorative no matter how much those clinical people want to maintain it as a nonpejorative. Take words that describe human waste --- they ALL become off-color. Even when the so-called clinical terms are used, the person saying it almost always hesitates/pauses to non-verbally communicate that they're not using it crudely.

 

Similarly, words for black/African-American/n-----/negro/etc. have changed back forth as to what's 'acceptable'/polite usage. Same with gay/homosexual/fag/queer/etc.

 

'Retarded' is currently in a state of flux, I'd say. Rude, but being used more and more and more colloquially as mentioned above. Describing people with Down's and other conditions, it's now pretty difficult to come out with the clinical word because that which is deemed offensive is changing and/or anything used to describe it can be deemed offensive by different people. Yes, I too frown on using "retarded" like this. But, realistically, you probably shouldn't get too upset. As David Gray sings, in "December": "Words don't bother me no more"....

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Uh, maybe I'm the one that is.............slow here, but I guess I don't get it.

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But it's the opposite. Retarded was never a cultural descriptor. It was never a medical term. Its use towards people has always been a pejorative, and from my vantage point, I'm glad that it's finally being used at the people who truly deserve the title.

 

From Wikipedia: Mental Retardation

 

GG, I'm surprised that you never heard of the term "mentally retarded." IIRC, that was the clinical terminology in use while I was in grade school....

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Tom, you have such a way with words, but the term "retard", is one that went out in the 70s, and is demeaning to the reality of those who truly are...

 

Why might you ask?? Because people came to realize, it was a term only idiots and morons used against people they disagreed with.

What does it mean after all?? Slow??? Right???

I have one that is near and dear to me, that you would call "retarded", but in my own life, he never, ever fails to show me how ignorant I am. Me... with a 138 IQ.... Can learn so much from this "retarded" young man, and I do, every single day of my life...

 

Yes, he's slow... But I can give him a math problem, most of you need a calculator for, and he can do it, on paper, I'd bet, within seconds of how long it took you to turn the calculator on...

 

Heck, he watches the news, and could tell you, verbatim, what Obama said not only last night, but after a moment to collect his thoughts, I bet he could recite PBOs acceptance speech 4 years ago....

 

This "retard", is my baby brother.... A much better man than you, or I, can ever hope to be...

 

One time I'll ask.... quit abusing that word... It only shows how ignorant WE are....

 

And I'm the legal guardian of a 35-but-functionally-12 year old nephew, who had his brain cooked by a fever when he was 5.

 

I would consider it an abuse of "retarded" to call him, OR your brother, "retarded." Your brother sounds autistic, not retarded. My nephew has a brain injury, and is developmently disabled. I don't consider either one to be retarded.

 

If you're offended by the use of "retarded" because you associate it with your brother, I auggest you stop associating it with him, and not blame me for your association. I never so much as implied he was retarded...you did. I have all the sympathy in the world for him, and if I had at all offended him would apologize. You, after having you make your own insulting association my responsibility, and invented offense where ot could only be given by projecting your own idiotic interpretations on to me...yeah, not so much.

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And I'm the legal guardian of a 35-but-functionally-12 year old nephew, who had his brain cooked by a fever when he was 5.

 

I would consider it an abuse of "retarded" to call him, OR your brother, "retarded." Your brother sounds autistic, not retarded. My nephew has a brain injury, and is developmently disabled. I don't consider either one to be retarded.

 

If you're offended by the use of "retarded" because you associate it with your brother, I auggest you stop associating it with him, and not blame me for your association. I never so much as implied he was retarded...you did. I have all the sympathy in the world for him, and if I had at all offended him would apologize. You, after having you make your own insulting association my responsibility, and invented offense where ot could only be given by projecting your own idiotic interpretations on to me...yeah, not so much.

 

Tom, this response was right on target, right up to your last sentence. I'll bet you've never been called magnanimous, have you? This whole conversation has been about both of you with close relatives that have some challenges and you're choosing to be a dick? For f's sake, Cinga takes exception with the word "retarded". Is it such a reach for you to say, "Hey, I meant no harm, been there and look at it differently but will try not to offend too often, but in case I do, "f" you?

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From Wikipedia: Mental Retardation

 

My oversight. I should have said that retardation has not been used in medical terminology in over 20 years, if not more, as the pejorative has replaced its utility in the vernacular. Kind of like people no longer use queer and gay in their long standing meanings.

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My oversight. I should have said that retardation has not been used in medical terminology in over 20 years, if not more, as the pejorative has replaced its utility in the vernacular. Kind of like people no longer use queer and gay in their long standing meanings.

We don't? I never got the memo.

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And I'm the legal guardian of a 35-but-functionally-12 year old nephew, who had his brain cooked by a fever when he was 5.

 

I would consider it an abuse of "retarded" to call him, OR your brother, "retarded." Your brother sounds autistic, not retarded. My nephew has a brain injury, and is developmently disabled. I don't consider either one to be retarded.

 

If you're offended by the use of "retarded" because you associate it with your brother, I auggest you stop associating it with him, and not blame me for your association. I never so much as implied he was retarded...you did. I have all the sympathy in the world for him, and if I had at all offended him would apologize. You, after having you make your own insulting association my responsibility, and invented offense where ot could only be given by projecting your own idiotic interpretations on to me...yeah, not so much.

 

I have a nephew who is severly autistic and at the age of 29 has never spoken a word in his life and never will. I have never once called nor considered him a retard.

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