shrader Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 That would suck if you lived in Rhode Island or by any state line. What about crossing international borders. A Canada-US relationship seems very doable for anyone living in Buffalo.
bowery4 Posted August 31, 2012 Posted August 31, 2012 What about crossing international borders. A Canada-US relationship seems very doable for anyone living in Buffalo. Boarders in NiagraFalls? I have been there, is it still there?
mead107 Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Do not ask what or who she did last week. Did you call her or did she call you?
NoSaint Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 were talking again.... I hate to chime in on these - as we don't know jack about your relationship, despite everyone in this thread claiming otherwise but on a global level.... You're young, have fun. Be happy. If that's with her - go for it. If it's not (and this back and forth doesn't sound like it) then go find something that will keep you happy. The last thing you want to do is look back and think "wow- wasted that year."
Jim in Anchorage Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 were talking again.... After you got the new car?
Captain Hindsight Posted September 2, 2012 Author Posted September 2, 2012 After you got the new car? Haha ya. She called me. Wanted to see how I was doing and wants us to be able to talk and be friends. Since im still all smitten by this gal, im gonna play along for now, but i was pretty stand offish last night. I decided tho that if it starts to hurt and i find out things I dont like, im gonna cut bait. I dont deserve that
Jim in Anchorage Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Haha ya. She called me. Wanted to see how I was doing and wants us to be able to talk and be friends. Since im still all smitten by this gal, im gonna play along for now, but i was pretty stand offish last night. I decided tho that if it starts to hurt and i find out things I dont like, im gonna cut bait. I dont deserve that Oh man friends This is getting too close to home. Do not, repeat do not bite. insist on man/woman relationship..
Doc Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Haha ya. She called me. Wanted to see how I was doing and wants us to be able to talk and be friends. Since im still all smitten by this gal, im gonna play along for now, but i was pretty stand offish last night. I decided tho that if it starts to hurt and i find out things I dont like, im gonna cut bait. I dont deserve that Tell her you can be BF-GF, friends...with benefits, or nothing. That is, unless you're okay with being "just friends," which I've found to be impossible when one of the two still has a torch for the other.
Fan in San Diego Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 O contraire. These eels were going for 2000 bucks a pound earlier this year. if it werent for that whole ethic thing id be on easy street Eels are too salty, I prefer leaches.
mead107 Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Still only wants to be friends? Seems like she wants to string you along. That's ok as long as you have the knife to cut that string when the time comes. It will come, bet on it.
Fan in San Diego Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 (We will return to DC Tom's typical internet asshattery after this brief public service announcement.) That which begins, eventually ends. The real trick to life isn't fighting the endings, but realizing they're natural and accepting them with dignity and respect for yourself and others. (We now continue with our regular programming...) There is hope for you yet DC!
kegtapr Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 Haha ya. She called me. Wanted to see how I was doing and wants us to be able to talk and be friends. Since im still all smitten by this gal, im gonna play along for now, but i was pretty stand offish last night. I decided tho that if it starts to hurt and i find out things I dont like, im gonna cut bait. I dont deserve that 2-1 odds the other guy she was eyeballing rejected her. Sounds to me like she can't/doesn't want to be alone. But of course thats only based on my experience, not your relationship.
NoSaint Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 (edited) 2-1 odds the other guy she was eyeballing rejected her. Sounds to me like she can't/doesn't want to be alone. But of course thats only based on my experience, not your relationship. Or was seen flirting elsewhere over the weekend Haha ya. She called me. Wanted to see how I was doing and wants us to be able to talk and be friends. Since im still all smitten by this gal, im gonna play along for now, but i was pretty stand offish last night. I decided tho that if it starts to hurt and i find out things I dont like, im gonna cut bait. I dont deserve that If it starts to hurt you or you find things you don't like..... You mean like when she broke up with you? The one foot out, one foot in game that she's playing is the one route I'd very confidently tell you to not pursue, regardless of the fact that we know very little here. It does not work. If you genuinely want to be friends you need space now. If you want to be together, you can't be just friend. Edited September 2, 2012 by NoSaint
Captain Hindsight Posted September 2, 2012 Author Posted September 2, 2012 (edited) Still only wants to be friends? Seems like she wants to string you along. That's ok as long as you have the knife to cut that string when the time comes. It will come, bet on it. I'm a little worried about that. I mean its only been a week I'm willing to let this run its course for a bit. I really truely believe this isnt forever. I may not have mentioned this in the thread but im her first boyfriend. She has a lot of stuff she needs to work out. We are just at two totally different points in our lives right now. Love isnt the problem between us. Talking to her last night and her roommate earlier in the week have confirmed that. I have no one else I want to be with right now, if taking a break from "us" is what lets me have her in a year for the next 50 years, I'm willing to do that. I know that makes me sound lame and like im letting her have the power but when you know, you know. Its not like im waiting around either. I was cruising on a boat on Canadaigua Lake last night drinking beers with a few buddies and some girls we met. Edited September 2, 2012 by Captain Hindsight
mead107 Posted September 2, 2012 Posted September 2, 2012 I have seen this with my own son. Falls hard and takes long time to find the next one. Let her go. If you are her first boyfriend she will want to find out what some other dude has to offer. If not now, down the road it will only make it harder to let go. Should have done one of the girls in the boat
Captain Hindsight Posted September 3, 2012 Author Posted September 3, 2012 I have seen this with my own son. Falls hard and takes long time to find the next one. Let her go. If you are her first boyfriend she will want to find out what some other dude has to offer. If not now, down the road it will only make it harder to let go. Should have done one of the girls in the boat I tried haha
NoSaint Posted September 3, 2012 Posted September 3, 2012 I tried haha Ahhh so you're both going half way, until one of you finds an opportunity and ends up hurting the other one. I'll maintain- there's almost no good end to the "just talking" after a long term relationship just busted up. I won't say whether you should chase the relationship or head for the hills, but this one certainly has the biggest potential for disaster.
Just Jack Posted September 4, 2012 Posted September 4, 2012 She heard you have a new car, that's why she called. Talking to her last night and her roommate earlier in the week have confirmed that. Wait, what?! You're talking with the roomate also? Why? (and if she really wants to keep you around, suggest a threesome with the roomate)
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