Delete This Account Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 (edited) Folks: as i'm old and altogether unfamiliar with these issues, i've got myself wondering on what proper protocol on message boards are when it comes to private messages. it's come to my atttention that there's a member of this board who has shared the contents of a private message exchange i had with said member about a month ago. it's nothing terrible, and nothing that i wouldn't have shared in a natural exchange on this board. since it's been published, the poster noted that in a response to his private message (which followed a lengthy exchange on TSW that left said poster unsatisfied), i wrote "i really don't have time for this, sorry." eventually, the poster persisted, at which point i accused him of being "absurd." i won't share any other part of the private message exchange discussion, since that hasn't been published. my question is since the person reached out to me in a private message, i kinda assumed that the conversation would be kept, you know, private. and yet, lo and behold, i happened upon another discussion board in which this information was shared. sure, i understand that everything that we write -- whether it's posts on the board or in private messages -- are open to be made public. and yet, it seems to me that it crosses a bit of a line -- an unwritten rule, perhaps -- to publish the contents of private messages, and on another board no less. perhaps, i'm making too much of this. but i'd rather not have private messages shared. yer thoughts? jw Edited November 15, 2011 by john wawrow
Just Jack Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Private messages are meant to stay private unless both parties agree to let it be made public. If you let the mods know who it is, we can deal with them. Oh, and send me a valid credit card number so I can be sure you are who you say you are, I promise not to share it.
BarkLessWagMore Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 bad form, indeed. Agree with your position, John. A private exchange should be kept private.
Delete This Account Posted November 15, 2011 Author Posted November 15, 2011 Private messages are meant to stay private unless both parties agree to let it be made public. If you let the mods know who it is, we can deal with them. Oh, and send me a valid credit card number so I can be sure you are who you say you are, I promise not to share it. 7. jw
BuffaloBill Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 I agree with you. The difficulty though is that you can't control the actions and "groundrules" that others will follow. As for me, I assume everything I put in email, PM's and certainly on this board might be seen by the public. As a result, I am very conservative about what, if anything, I say or share. There is also an unknown element. Everything that is put out on the internet is "discoverable." This may be legitimately through tools like Google or it may be through malicious action. No matter how or where along this spectrum words are exposed they can be very damaging. Interesting topic.
thebug Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Private messages are meant to stay private unless both parties agree to let it be made public. If you let the mods know who it is, we can deal with them. Oh, and send me a valid credit card number so I can be sure you are who you say you are, I promise not to share it. Didn't see that anywhere in the terms of service. Maybe it should be?
The Poojer Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 I just sent you a private message with my thoughts... :-) Folks: as i'm old and altogether unfamiliar with these issues, i've got myself wondering on what proper protocol on message boards are when it comes to private messages. it's come to my atttention that there's a member of this board who has shared the contents of a private message exchange i had with said member about a month ago. it's nothing terrible, and nothing that i wouldn't have shared in a natural exchange on this board. since it's been published, the poster noted that in a response to his private message (which followed a lengthy exchange on TSW that left said poster unsatisfied), i wrote "i really don't have time for this, sorry." eventually, the poster persisted, at which point i accused him of being "absurd." i won't share any other part of the private message exchange discussion, since that hasn't been published. my question is since the person reached out to me in a private message, i kinda assumed that the conversation would be kept, you know, private. and yet, lo and behold, i happened upon another discussion board in which this information was shared. sure, i understand that everything that we write -- whether it's posts on the board or in private messages -- are open to be made public. and yet, it seems to me that it crosses a bit of a line -- an unwritten rule, perhaps -- to publish the contents of private messages, and on another board no less. perhaps, i'm making too much of this. but i'd rather not have private messages shared. yer thoughts? jw
thebug Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Folks: as i'm old and altogether unfamiliar with these issues, i've got myself wondering on what proper protocol on message boards are when it comes to private messages. it's come to my atttention that there's a member of this board who has shared the contents of a private message exchange i had with said member about a month ago. it's nothing terrible, and nothing that i wouldn't have shared in a natural exchange on this board. since it's been published, the poster noted that in a response to his private message (which followed a lengthy exchange on TSW that left said poster unsatisfied), i wrote "i really don't have time for this, sorry." eventually, the poster persisted, at which point i accused him of being "absurd." i won't share any other part of the private message exchange discussion, since that hasn't been published. my question is since the person reached out to me in a private message, i kinda assumed that the conversation would be kept, you know, private. and yet, lo and behold, i happened upon another discussion board in which this information was shared. sure, i understand that everything that we write -- whether it's posts on the board or in private messages -- are open to be made public. and yet, it seems to me that it crosses a bit of a line -- an unwritten rule, perhaps -- to publish the contents of private messages, and on another board no less. perhaps, i'm making too much of this. but i'd rather not have private messages shared. yer thoughts? jw I think it's kinda crappy, but you can't really trust some on here...... Also, what are you doing going to other discussion sites? I thought we had exclusive rights?
bills44 Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 perhaps, i'm making too much of this. indeed
Delete This Account Posted November 15, 2011 Author Posted November 15, 2011 (edited) I think it's kinda crappy, but you can't really trust some on here...... Also, what are you doing going to other discussion sites? I thought we had exclusive rights? i get around. i'll also not name the poster. the intention i had in starting this thread is not to call or rat someone out -- i've never put a poster on ignore or reported a questionable post (other than those in which copyrighted information was used in a post without credit). instead, i considered it a good time to open a discussion and perhaps have it serve as a reminder for everyone here who exchange private messages that, perhaps, it's good form to keep them private. jw Edited November 15, 2011 by john wawrow
BuffaloBillsForever Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Private messages should always stay private, however there are a few common sense exceptions in which you might NOT want to keep something private anymore. Offensive Threatening Illegal
boyst Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Private messages should always stay private, however there are a few common sense exceptions in which you might NOT want to keep something private anymore. Offensive Threatening Illegal Then whats the point of private messaging at all? Especially with Wawrow? In all seriousness, let a moderator know - we need to police ourselves people.
ieatcrayonz Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 (edited) i get around. i'll also not name the poster. the intention i had in starting this thread is not to call or rat someone out -- i've never put a poster on ignore or reported a questionable post (other than those in which copyrighted information was used in a post without credit). instead, i considered it a good time to open a discussion and perhaps have it serve as a reminder for everyone here who exchange private messages that, perhaps, it's good form to keep them private. jw First of all we all understand why you thought Beerboy would be able to help you with remedy advice for your "itching". Truth be told, he doesn't know much about anything. The reason you went back and forth with him so much is that he obviously And I could have told you he can't keep a secret. P.S. The bald look really doesn't work for him any better than the "with hair" look does. Edited November 15, 2011 by ieatcrayonz
DC Tom Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Folks: as i'm old and altogether unfamiliar with these issues, i've got myself wondering on what proper protocol on message boards are when it comes to private messages. it's come to my atttention that there's a member of this board who has shared the contents of a private message exchange i had with said member about a month ago. it's nothing terrible, and nothing that i wouldn't have shared in a natural exchange on this board. since it's been published, the poster noted that in a response to his private message (which followed a lengthy exchange on TSW that left said poster unsatisfied), i wrote "i really don't have time for this, sorry." eventually, the poster persisted, at which point i accused him of being "absurd." i won't share any other part of the private message exchange discussion, since that hasn't been published. my question is since the person reached out to me in a private message, i kinda assumed that the conversation would be kept, you know, private. and yet, lo and behold, i happened upon another discussion board in which this information was shared. sure, i understand that everything that we write -- whether it's posts on the board or in private messages -- are open to be made public. and yet, it seems to me that it crosses a bit of a line -- an unwritten rule, perhaps -- to publish the contents of private messages, and on another board no less. perhaps, i'm making too much of this. but i'd rather not have private messages shared. yer thoughts? jw KRC and I were discussing this via PM, and he said you should stop being such a wuss...
The Poojer Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 :lol: KRC and I were discussing this via PM, and he said you should stop being such a wuss...
Satan Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Not respecting the "private" part of a "private message" is bad, m'kay?
FluffHead Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Not respecting the "private" part of a "private message" is bad, m'kay? One must always respect the private parts
ExiledInIllinois Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Private messages are meant to stay private unless both parties agree to let it be made public. If you let the mods know who it is, we can deal with them. What happens if it is a mod? Does that go for names and identity? I found the some mods themselves have broken this protocal and released information without consent.
Jim in Anchorage Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 What happens if it is a mod? Does that go for names and identity? I found the some mods themselves have broken this protocal and released information without consent. Settle down, Eric.
ExiledInIllinois Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 (edited) Settle down, Eric. Part of the reason I took Exiled in Illinois... It always gave me the option of changing it to 'Eric in Illinois." I really don't care that people know my name... I would have agreed if they would have asked permission. Yet, it was a mod that leaked it from a PM and now you and I are on a first name basis. I think this is great. But please, feel to use it in positive exchanges, not just in contentious ones. I never understood why they leaked it? I must have really bothered them or something and that is the only way they thought they could "best me." I have nothing to hide. You would think mods would know the etiquette?? Many people I get PM's from sign their name... Edited November 16, 2011 by ExiledInIllinois
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