mead107 Posted November 20, 2004 Posted November 20, 2004 we where out looking at wedding places today . she is home from boston . went to several places in the albany ,saratoga area .WOW!prices between 67 and 98 dollars per person. inviting about 250 people . must work more overtime
Mark VI Posted November 20, 2004 Posted November 20, 2004 You're marrying your daughter? 126526[/snapback] LOL ! Be nice to Mead. Man, if you were in the Buffalo area, I could direct you to some very nice/ affordable places with good food.
kegtapr Posted November 20, 2004 Posted November 20, 2004 we where out looking at wedding places today . she is home from boston . went to several places in the albany ,saratoga area .WOW!prices between 67 and 98 dollars per person. inviting about 250 people . must work more overtime 126487[/snapback] If you can try to find a place with a package price based on guest range, not per plate. I'm getting married next summer and we got a great deal at the Wydham hotel. Beautiful place with great food for much cheaper then the per plate places.
SDS Posted November 20, 2004 Posted November 20, 2004 Personally, I think it is insane to put out $25k for a wedding (party). Unless you truly have money to burn - I'd cut that list down to 50 lickety-split.
Guest BackInDaDay Posted November 20, 2004 Posted November 20, 2004 Congratulations, Pop! Hope all goes smooth enough so you can enjoy the day.
UConn James Posted November 20, 2004 Posted November 20, 2004 Personally, I think it is insane to put out $25k for a wedding (party). Unless you truly have money to burn - I'd cut that list down to 50 lickety-split. 126574[/snapback] And go pot luck.
Guest Guest Posted November 21, 2004 Posted November 21, 2004 I agree. if you have the money and want to spend it, go right ahead, but don't put yourself in hock or let your daughter do the same just because the current rage is wedding receptions you can't afford. If it is to be a church wedding and the church has a large enough room for a reception, consider doing it there and asking the women's organization to cater it. They'll make some $ for their organization and you'll get off for under $10 per plate plus fees for use of the sanctuary and fellowship hall. My son got married last summer. His mother-in-law is a divorcee working as a waitress. His father-in-law is a no good bum. No financial help there for a wedding and reception. We have two girls in a private college at the same time. We sure couldn't foot the bill for a large wedding. My son was working in a convenience store with plans on going to a school for practical nursing (he's attending now, and working part time) and his fiancee didn't have a job. We did a church wedding for about $1,500 for about 110 guests. That included flowers, tuxes, the works. There were two officiants, but he only had to pay an honorarium for one of them. The other one was me. As a member of the church there was no charge for use of the facility. My two daughters, who sing quite well did music. It was very nice. If you are not a member of a church (or maybe your church chagrges even for members, the fee for use of the church can vary tremendously depending on the area. We suggest a $75 honorarium each for the organist and minister. There is a $30 charge for use of the sanctuary, $50 for our fellowsip hall, and $20 for the custodian. A big church in a well heeled area might charge a few hundred dollars for honoraria and a few hundred for use of the church, a thousand or more for everything. That's still a lot less than the money you're lookiing to pay to a commercial establishment for what they'll provide.
Thurman's Helmet Posted November 21, 2004 Posted November 21, 2004 Hey, its his DAUGHTER man. Its every father's dream to walk his little girl down the aisle. If he's got the $$$, let him spend it. He'll never forget that day for the rest of his life. Its already on my mind and my girls are only 5 & 3. I imagine when the day comes, I'll be a total wreck.
taterhill Posted November 21, 2004 Posted November 21, 2004 $98 per plate...that is crazy...fortunately my wife's family is in the catering biz....because $98x400 people would not have made my wife's father too happy....yikes.....
Alaska Darin Posted November 21, 2004 Posted November 21, 2004 Unbelievable. You want to get them off to a better start? Give them the money for the downpayment on a modest house instead. The seeds of most divorces are planted because of lack of financial stability. No way in hell would I shell out anywhere near that kind of money for what is nothing more than a ceremony. My wife and I got married 14 years ago at the Justice of the Peace for $200. I gave her a car instead of a ring. We're still married today.
gmac17 Posted November 21, 2004 Posted November 21, 2004 Weddings are very expensive....and where they are really ridiculous is Long Island / NYC / Northern NJ. I've never seen people spend so much money, they really have different expectations there compared to anywhere else I've been to weddings.
KD in CA Posted November 21, 2004 Posted November 21, 2004 250 people sounds like a lot. I think there were 150 when I got married and 80% of those people I never saw again. Total waste of money IMO.
ExiledInIllinois Posted November 21, 2004 Posted November 21, 2004 250 people sounds like a lot. I think there were 150 when I got married and 80% of those people I never saw again. Total waste of money IMO. 126676[/snapback] Exactly! I got married in 1994... Had the reception at Salvatore's and I can't remember it being over 4K... Had about 120 people. Then again that was 10 years ago. Christ! I can't imagine dropping 25K!!! We even took a nice extended trip through British Columbia/Alberta afterwards. For well under 10 grand and then gifts things worked out fine! I guess nowadays you gotta drag people to the wedding with a barrel of a gun demanding 150 a person gift!
Guest Guest Posted November 21, 2004 Posted November 21, 2004 its me mead not signed in . they just bought a condo in boston 908sq ft big $$$$$$ . i do have a year and a half befor the date . they both have very good jobs .and its once in a life time event .
BillsFanNC Posted November 21, 2004 Posted November 21, 2004 My father in law offerred the $15k deal for us to elope. I still maintain he was only half kidding. My wife opted for the $20-25k country club reception. It's absolutely insane.
Guest Guest Posted November 21, 2004 Posted November 21, 2004 i offered the parking lot and money----mead
Marshmallow Posted November 21, 2004 Posted November 21, 2004 Good thing she's not getting married in NYC like I did. $160 per.
Guest Guest Posted November 21, 2004 Posted November 21, 2004 Dont know how expensive it is, but I went to a wedding recently at Malozzis in schenectady (might be rotterdam). At any rate, they did a very nice job. Might want to check it out if you havent already.
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