And given how the female ignores you, I would say she's contending for leader of the pack. there are a lot of ways to quell this behavior. i would start there, establishing yourself, and the other hoomans in the pack as higher ranking members of the pack.
- Always go into a new room or outside first. Never let her go in first.
- Feed her absolutely last. if she tries to get into the male' food, throw her out of the room.
- If she acts up, hold her down until she stops struggling.
- Have everyone in the family practice the same things.
I know it sounds stupid, but these are some little things that you can do to assert your's and other family member's dominance over her. Lotsa links like this on the interwebs:
https://www.petful.com/behaviors/how-establish-leadership-over-dog/