John, I hope you read the following, even though you probably will not believe it. Still, I'll give it a shot:
Let's put all men in your age group and above in a pie chart. I would do it here if I knew how but check it out....And anyone can feel free to discuss/adjust my estimates.
Married - 50%
Alcoholic - 10% (I am being kind here)
Gay - 5%
Drugs - 5%
Criminals - 5% (going low once again)
Still in love with ex - 5%
Completely broke - 10%
Pervert - 5%
In addition to the above, many cannot perform and some fit into multiple (and other) categories. It is easier at your age to meet a woman than it was when you were in your twenties.
My point: There is little competition.
Look, I am not suggesting that you go after 25 year old models. Just women around your age. Having 3 daughters the situation doesn't thrill me but it is 100% true.
If you are a nice guy, can hold a conversation, and are not hideous the ball is in your court..
You probably do not believe me but it's true. I wish someone else would weigh in on what I am saying.