Really? Is that what I was saying? No, of course not (but you knew that already, next time try to avoid the classic straw man technique, it's a bit lazy).
However, you do hit the nail on the head when you say: "Military force is one option among many, and the costs will vary with the situation."
If you, too, believe that is the wisest course how would you respond to attacks on Obama that such a stance is tantamount to "appeasement?"