When trying to identify and solve problems while having a constructive conversation, it's always enlightening to bring out the ladder of accountability. It identifies problem solving tactics and behaviors by individuals in the discussion. Until the group starts operating in the top half of the ladder, nothing constructive ever occurs. Ask yourself where you are on this ladder. Not Trump or Pelosi or the Left or the Right. Are you always blaming others at the bottom of the rung or have you acknowledged the problem and have started owning it.
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