I used to think that way as well and she even agreed with me. Come to find out that she really does want the flowers and card and everything. Found out the hard way, didn't buy her a card one year and she was upset for a week. I said, "but i though we both agreed not to waste money on this sham of a holiday?" Well I paid for it big time. Don't let her fool you, she will say not to do anything, but that's not what she means. Especially if all her friends and co-workers are getting flowers and gifts delivered.