My brother is in the same boat and I love him and would defend him with my life BUT if I say the wrong word to try and describe his abilities then someone can come along and tell me that I'm wrong. I would never say anything to purposefully hurt him or anyone like him. When it comes to using terms that doctors, counselors and the like have used all my life and now be told by some rando that I can't say that, it's too much. Can I say he has a learning disability? Idk. Can I say he's in the spectrum? Idk. I have to walk on eggshells because what is/ was ok is not anymore but no one seems to know or agree on what IS ok. So basically I have to check with our politicians and celebrities to inform me.