Yes, and posting his e-mail on Chargers message boards was BS. Somebody did that here after a Bills game he reffed a couple of years ago, and we took it down immediately. (Yeah, I know it's easily available online. Doesn't mean we have to help people be jerks.) He's owned up to blowing the call, and it's probably going to cost him any chance at doing the Super Bowl this year. What good is going to come from sending him a bunch of nasty e-mails?
And, as others have pointed out here, it was still 38-31 Chargers after that play. His screwup doesn't excuse theirs.
To answer the "just give it to 'em" question, I'm pretty sure it was Coleman (as previously mentioned). Unlike Hochuli's mistake, that wasn't a split-second decision -- they conferred, made a judgement call, and STILL got it wrong.