I’m sure I’m over simplifying this...
I have relatives who are very materialistic. I keep saying that a good family, good health, and a job that you don’t dislike are all that matter. Once you have what you “want” you will just want more. My words fall on deaf ears.
As as far as religion and spirituality are concerned, some relatives go to church regularly, others go occasionally, and others try to avoid it. Based on my observations of family members, I don’t think going to church correlates to kindness, generosity, humility, acceptance, or any other virtue. In fact, some of the ones who go rarely are the ones who seem to display characteristics that imply spirituality.