I know all about power relationships. I have worked for someone for the last 35 years.
I disagree that you can’t be a scholar and an athlete.
Most “academic” scholarships have a financial aid component. I make enough money that my kids didn’t qualify for financial aid, but not enough that I could cut a check for $60K to $70K/yr. Hence we focused on schools that offered guaranteed merit scholarships. Sadly, there are very few left.