well...it kind of was because there was zero distractions. when you take young girls out of the mix, you'd be shocked how it changes the environment. there was no alpha male stuff going on, mostly because no one cared. it was a huge positive to be nerdy and get good grades. sports was important too, but not as much as being a good student.
exactly. it took me a while to feel women out, (no pun intended). i screwed up a lot of early relationships because it was in my head that if my girlfriend didn't follow my lead, they were lousy girlfriends. i'm still not sure i'm even great with it now. i had to marry a woman almost 10 years younger than me just to be on equal playing grounds in terms of relationship maturity.