Let's use an example of a neighborhood to explain this. There was a storm. A tree in Mr. Smith's yard fell down. Mr. Jones, his next door neighbor, has no damage to his yard. Now would it make sense for Mr. Smith to be pissed off that when he woke up and saw the fallen tree that Mr. Jones wasn't already out there chopping it up? No, if he wanted his help with taking care of it he'd give him a call and ask him nicely and offer him some beer when they're done. People don't always know what to do unless they're asked.