Yeah, you did the right thing by not shivving her. Although I probably would have said this about the remote deal: "Its a ing remote, unless i missed a meeting with the remote people about the buttons being different I think I can handle it, now cook my pot pie." Something along those lines. Now seeing as how she "bent backwards" for you, you should point it out that you bent over the other way for her. Gas prices, food prices, and everything else that goes into traveling is like getting raped. If you haven't told her that yet you should. And to set the record straight, let her know you cant stand to visit with her for the above reasons and that if she cant fix her issues that it will be sometime before you visit again. Of course doing this in your polite way would probably be the best, if she decides she wants to argue, simple hang up and try on another day. She'll get the point.