I had a buddy invite me to his batchelor party in costa rica. As a surfer (and his friend), I would have loved to go, but I would have wanted to surf in lieu of the more "traditional" batchelor party things they had planned (and I couldn't afford it anyway). Needless to say, I didn't make it nor did most of the people he invited. I think when people plan a wedding or pre-wedding party in an exotic place like that they realize most people won't be able to swing it and maybe they are just trying to flaunt their elevated financial status......