The world ain't all rainbows and sunshine fellas. A lot of churchgoing African Americans are not "down" with the gay cause.
It is what it is, and you have heard quotes from players in the past like the 49ers cb who said something along the line of. Oh hell no, no gay dudes up in hea or something similarly intolerant.
The it's not a big deal crowd is wrong. Not a big deal in your household maybe, but is gonna be to some locker rooms.
Not everyone is a super tolerant, bravo watching, npr listening hipster. It's a big world, ya can't speak for everyone.