The Steelers scored 10 points, starters versus starters. This despite ZERO help from the offense, and with no Schobel. I wouldn't call that "getting shoved around," especially since the Steelers are the defending SB champs and they were playing in their house. ST's will be fine once the season starts, as they have been for the past 5 years.
On offense however, you could say they were shoved around. Mostly because the ST's kept putting them in a hole (average drive start was just short of the 16 yard line). Not having TO also made the Bills revert back to the offense they've had for the past 3 years.
As for picking a fight, that's just dumb. I can sort of understand being pissed over hearing players laughing in the lockerroom, but getting into a fight, no way.