Wow, sorry to hear that. Where are you in the city? I've had the complete opposite experience. I got the hell out of the Bay the moment I could move to Seattle. I appreciate the sense of community, history, traditions, and have had who knows how many conversations about the myth of the seattle freeze, ha! Not saying your takeaways are wrong or illegitimate, just that on precisely the same benchmarks I have come to a totally different conclusion.
If I lived in shoreline/lake city/bellveue/kirkland/kent/renton or one of the many satellite towns, I imagine my experience would be quite different.