I've been happily married for 8 years (well every couple has problems), but in my single days the "passive approach" always worked best for me. I definitely put myself out there, but never tried to hard to "connect" with females. I have heard several times from female friends that there are few things more unappealing to them than a man who "tries too hard."
I wasn't implying that you are desperate, hemet. Just trying to steer you in the right direction. If she calls...great! If she doesn't then it's time to move on. Plenty of women out there, and you sound like a pretty good guy. Chin up...