Maybe I am spoiling him? I choose to spend $2-3000 per year (and 15-20 hours per week of my time) for him to play hockey because he likes it. I could just as well spend $35 on the registration fee for rec basketball and another $100 on a ball and a pair of basketball sneakers. Tough titties little man...Daddy needs money for the car payment on my BMW. Couldn’t I? Believe me, there are a lot of things that I could spend that hockey money on. Perhaps a Caribbean cruise for the wife and I?
My wife and I stopped after our 2nd child was born, and one of the main reasons for that was financial responsibility. We wanted to be able to afford everything that our kids needed and wanted (within reason), and also have money for things we like to do.
What, exactly, do you think makes children spoiled? Is it giving them all the material things? Is it being a “bulldozer” parent and shielding then from any adversity in life? Does it happen when you make their “activities” the center focus of your adult life? What exactly does it mean for a child to be spoiled? I think you need to be more specific.