Obviously your boss is not a mentor, coach or leader. I haven't had a boss in thirty years. I have built two businesses and employed a number of people. I have no idea what the second part of that sentence means, but if your boss yells at you undeservedly do something else.
Different people need different guidance. Dareus is not a criminal nor is he lazy, you do not make to the NFL if you are lazy. He is immature and had more personal loss at a young age than anyone should endure. He needs structure and guidance.